Sunday, June 29, 2014
The bite was not delibrate....Suarez
Luis Suárez bite defence: I
lost balance and hit my teeth
against Chiellini
Uruguay striker claims biting Italian
player was an accident
Fifa gives reasons for unprecedented
ban
Luis Suárez has claimed he did not
intentionally bite Giorgio Chiellini but simply lost
balance and fell into him. Photograph: Daniel
Garcia/AFP/Getty Images
Tags: Luis Suárez , Uruguay, World Cup 2014 ,
World Cup , Fifa
Owen Gibson in Rio de Janeiro
Saturday 28 June 2014 09.37 EDT
Luis Suárez, the Uruguay striker banned
for four months for biting Giorgio
Chiellini, claimed in his defence to Fifa
that the shocking act was not deliberate
and he simply lost his balance and fell on
to the Italian player with his teeth.
In a defence that makes the “dog ate my
homework” excuse look plausible, Suárez
wrote to Fifa’s disciplinary panel saying
the incident was an accident. “In no way
it happened how you have described, as
a bite or intent to bite,” the forward
wrote in Spanish, in a letter dated 25
June and revealed on Saturday.
“After the impact … I lost my balance,
making my body unstable and falling on
top of my opponent,” he said in his
submission to the panel, which met on
Wednesday, a day after Uruguay had
beaten Italy 1-0 in a decisive group-stage
match. “At that moment I hit my face
against the player, leaving a small bruise
on my cheek and a strong pain in my
teeth,” the Liverpool striker said.
The player could be seen holding his
teeth following the incident with Chiellini
but the seven-strong panel dismissed
Suárez’s argument after studying the
incident from 34 camera angles. The bite
was “deliberate, intentional and without
provocation”, the ruling read. “He bit the
player with the intention of wounding
him or at least of destabilising him.”
Suárez was banned for nine Uruguay
matches and four months from all
football , including domestic Premier
League games for Liverpool. He was also
fined £66,000. The Uruguayan Football
Association said on Thursday it would
appeal against the ruling and have a
further seven days to prepare the
paperwork.
Fifa’s ruling confirmed the referee,
Marco Rodríguez of Mexico,
acknowledged in his match report that
he missed Suárez’s bite. So did his two
assistants and the fourth official. “I
haven’t seen the incident because the
ball was in another sector of the pitch,”
Rodríguez admitted in the 11-page
document.
The ban was more severe because it was
not the first time the player had been
involved in a biting incident. Suárez has
received bans for biting opponents while
playing for Ajax and Liverpool .
Another reason for the unprecedented
punishment was the Uruguayan showed
no repentance for the incident and
previous bans had not changed his
behaviour. “At no time did the player
show any kind of remorse or admit to
any violation of Fifa rules and therefore
showed no awareness of having
committed any infraction,” the Fifa
document read. The document showed a
proposal for a six-game ban was
considered but rejected as insufficient.
“The minimum punishment was not
sufficient to have the necessary
dissuasive effect. Previous bans did not
have an effect.”
Suárez, who is back in Uruguay, where
he met the country’s president and
waved to fans from his balcony, has
received plenty of backing from within
Latin America and tweeted on Saturday
to acknowledge the support: “Hi all, I
write this post to give thanks to the
outpouring of support and love I am
receiving. Both myself and my family
really appreciate it. Thank you very
much for being by my side and I want to
support all my colleagues selected for the
match against Colombia.”
— Luis Suarez (@luis16suarez)
June 28, 2014
Hola a todos, escribo este mensaje para dar
las gracias a todas las muestras de apoyo y
cariño que estoy (cont) http://
t.co/2uo0LXaqs2
My actions drove my husband into another woman's hands...
My marriage is nine
years old. I have been very lucky with my
career. While a lot of my colleagues in the
banks had their careers terminated ; mine
kept flourishing so much so I am now a
branch manager in out of the A -list banks .
The money I make is enough to feed my
family and keep the children in one of the
best schools in town . Though my husband
works , but his salary as a top civil servant
is nothing to write home about . Therefore , I
have to provide most of the things at home .
Also the demands of my job give me very
little time with my family ; a fact my
husband understands . There is no way I
can be a manager and still have time to
prepare my children for school , cook and
clean the house . Since his job isn ’ t as
demanding as mine, we agreed he should
assist with ensuring the children are ready
by the time the school bus comes for them.
It isn ’ t as if he baths them ; there are two
house - helps in the house I pay to cover up
my lapses.
Although I go to work on Saturdays , I try to
come home early when I don ’ t have a
social function .
For a long time my husband kept
complaining about my unavailability at
home and in his life as my husband.
No matter how hard I tried to explain to him
that my job left me exhausted and unable to
make love when he desired it ; he would
always complain.
At a time, I stopped trying to make him
understand and actually packed to our
guest room to give me peace at home.
To be honest , I can ’ t remember when he
stopped complaining about my job or not
having enough of my company. Also the
fact that I have been busy trying to keep
my job in the face of threats presented by
the ailing economy and competition
presented by the retrenchment of very good
hands in other banks , I lost account of the
last time we made love .
Honestly Agatha , I love my husband and
prayed ours would be a happy home . But I
have evidence that my husband has another
woman who recently gave him a set of
twins. She is also a civil servant. I went
there to confirm and found it to be true .
What pains me the most is the role of my
mother- in-law in the development. She was
there at the naming ceremony of the babies,
despite everything I do for her .
When my husband learnt I went to see the
other woman ; he warned me never to
attempt it again . He actually threatened to
end our marriage if I ever do that again .
Now he hardly comes home or talks to me .
I love him and want my husband back
home. I ’ m trying to change ; come home
early and stay at home on weekends but he
is never around . What do I do? Or do I just
divorce him since he now has another
woman in his life ?
Ireti.
Dear Ireti ,
In his shoes , what would you have done ?
Continue to endure the deprivation , neglect
and humiliation of your spouse ?
What kind of money and career were you
looking for that made you so neglectful of
your home ? Are those house - helps you
employed for your home his wife or mother
of his children? Were you also expecting
them to share his bed, tender to all his
emotional needs in addition to the jobs you
specified for them ? How come you now
have the time to stay at home when you
never did; when your job appeared to be the
only thing that drove your passion as a
woman ?
Now that you have realized his usefulness
to your life ; you want him back ? As what ? A
hen-pecked husband? The kind you bring
out of the cupboard at your convenience ?
What manner of love does this to a man ?
It doesn ’ t work like that . Life gives you back
what you invest into it . There is no amount
of money that will ever be enough to buy
happiness and peace of mind .
You were too busy to notice your
importance in your home ; the advantage of
being married and having your man to
yourself . The excuse that you were busy
building your career doesn ’ t work because
women before you who occupied that
position, you prided above your home;
managed to balance their acts .
Being a career woman doesn ’ t mean a
woman must have a broken home or
unable to subject herself to the
governorship of her husband.
The reason God gave women the special gift
of being able to multi task is in realization
of our importance to our homes .
Unless you want to completely lose your
husband to this other woman ; you have to
stop nagging and create time for everything
that makes your man happy . You also have
to make up your mind about those things
that are of importance to you now that you
have another woman to deal with in his life .
If you think it is going to be easy to get him
back, you are wrong because in your nine
years as his wife , you have given him no
pleasant reason or memory to want to make
him remain with you. So , it is going to take
a huge miracle to make him come back to
you fully .
Your mistake was making it appear that ,
because of the money you were making
from your job; you were only enduring the
marriage . In addition you also made it clear
to him that you went below your level by
marrying a poor civil servant. No matter the
position of a man; he remains the head of
his home ; to treat him otherwise is to
cause a dislocation in the home .
The impudence with which you conducted
yourself throughout this marriage has
become your albatross now that you want
him back. What were you expecting him to
do when you left him in the cold ? If you
cannot even remember the last time you
and your husband made love all because of
your so called career, then it tells of the
kind of wife you have been to him.
What woman packs from the master
bedroom into the guestroom and also
makes it difficult for her husband to gain
access to her body? A woman may earn all
the money in the world but she will never
be the man ; the reason he can get away
with having children outside his home and
you, struggling to awake the embers of a
fire you thoughtlessly poured water into.
You are lucky he had the discipline not to
have slept and impregnated your house -
helps . Another man with less discipline
would have and dared you to make noise
about it.
If you want him back, you have to first ask
yourself what is important to you as a
woman and mother. If he agrees to come
back, what are you willing to offer him? Are
you prepared to give up your career for him
and the children? Also you have to factor
the presence of the other woman and her
children into all these . If the other woman
has the support of the mother , she has
come to stay ; a situation you unfortunately
helped to create .
This isn ’ t just about you and your husband
anymore ; your efforts must incorporate the
other woman who whether you like it or not
has become your mate . Do you have that
special grace to share your husband with
another woman ? This isn ’ t time for
idealistic solutions; you have to be very
realistic about this.
If you don’ t have the stomach to share him
at all , be honest with yourself so you don’ t
complicate things for your children in the
long run because they are the ones that
would forever remain in the family .
Besides , it isn ’ t always wise for a woman to
be the one to end the marriage , because it
is one decision she will forever carry the
blame .
Since your husband hasn ’ t said anything
about ending the marriage , I suggest , you
continue to make the efforts of making the
marriage work ; at least if not for yourself
but , for your children who will not be able
to enjoy the presence of their father as they
used to .
By now, it should be clear to you that they
remain your most priceless gifts .
Go around his family members , including
his mother and friends to bring both of you
to the discussion table . Cry , apologise and
beg him for everything you have done
wrong. It may not give you instant result
but if you persist and patient, things will
work out between the two of you
eventually. No matter what your options
are, it is important you both talk about the
future of your marriage .
Also, resist the urge to go to the other
woman ’ s domain again . She had nothing to
do with the situation that drove your
husband out of your arms and home . You
did that all by yourself so don ’ t complicate
things by looking for a scapegoat.
Finally, go on your knees for a humble
spirit . Your pride went before your fall.
Good luck.
years old. I have been very lucky with my
career. While a lot of my colleagues in the
banks had their careers terminated ; mine
kept flourishing so much so I am now a
branch manager in out of the A -list banks .
The money I make is enough to feed my
family and keep the children in one of the
best schools in town . Though my husband
works , but his salary as a top civil servant
is nothing to write home about . Therefore , I
have to provide most of the things at home .
Also the demands of my job give me very
little time with my family ; a fact my
husband understands . There is no way I
can be a manager and still have time to
prepare my children for school , cook and
clean the house . Since his job isn ’ t as
demanding as mine, we agreed he should
assist with ensuring the children are ready
by the time the school bus comes for them.
It isn ’ t as if he baths them ; there are two
house - helps in the house I pay to cover up
my lapses.
Although I go to work on Saturdays , I try to
come home early when I don ’ t have a
social function .
For a long time my husband kept
complaining about my unavailability at
home and in his life as my husband.
No matter how hard I tried to explain to him
that my job left me exhausted and unable to
make love when he desired it ; he would
always complain.
At a time, I stopped trying to make him
understand and actually packed to our
guest room to give me peace at home.
To be honest , I can ’ t remember when he
stopped complaining about my job or not
having enough of my company. Also the
fact that I have been busy trying to keep
my job in the face of threats presented by
the ailing economy and competition
presented by the retrenchment of very good
hands in other banks , I lost account of the
last time we made love .
Honestly Agatha , I love my husband and
prayed ours would be a happy home . But I
have evidence that my husband has another
woman who recently gave him a set of
twins. She is also a civil servant. I went
there to confirm and found it to be true .
What pains me the most is the role of my
mother- in-law in the development. She was
there at the naming ceremony of the babies,
despite everything I do for her .
When my husband learnt I went to see the
other woman ; he warned me never to
attempt it again . He actually threatened to
end our marriage if I ever do that again .
Now he hardly comes home or talks to me .
I love him and want my husband back
home. I ’ m trying to change ; come home
early and stay at home on weekends but he
is never around . What do I do? Or do I just
divorce him since he now has another
woman in his life ?
Ireti.
Dear Ireti ,
In his shoes , what would you have done ?
Continue to endure the deprivation , neglect
and humiliation of your spouse ?
What kind of money and career were you
looking for that made you so neglectful of
your home ? Are those house - helps you
employed for your home his wife or mother
of his children? Were you also expecting
them to share his bed, tender to all his
emotional needs in addition to the jobs you
specified for them ? How come you now
have the time to stay at home when you
never did; when your job appeared to be the
only thing that drove your passion as a
woman ?
Now that you have realized his usefulness
to your life ; you want him back ? As what ? A
hen-pecked husband? The kind you bring
out of the cupboard at your convenience ?
What manner of love does this to a man ?
It doesn ’ t work like that . Life gives you back
what you invest into it . There is no amount
of money that will ever be enough to buy
happiness and peace of mind .
You were too busy to notice your
importance in your home ; the advantage of
being married and having your man to
yourself . The excuse that you were busy
building your career doesn ’ t work because
women before you who occupied that
position, you prided above your home;
managed to balance their acts .
Being a career woman doesn ’ t mean a
woman must have a broken home or
unable to subject herself to the
governorship of her husband.
The reason God gave women the special gift
of being able to multi task is in realization
of our importance to our homes .
Unless you want to completely lose your
husband to this other woman ; you have to
stop nagging and create time for everything
that makes your man happy . You also have
to make up your mind about those things
that are of importance to you now that you
have another woman to deal with in his life .
If you think it is going to be easy to get him
back, you are wrong because in your nine
years as his wife , you have given him no
pleasant reason or memory to want to make
him remain with you. So , it is going to take
a huge miracle to make him come back to
you fully .
Your mistake was making it appear that ,
because of the money you were making
from your job; you were only enduring the
marriage . In addition you also made it clear
to him that you went below your level by
marrying a poor civil servant. No matter the
position of a man; he remains the head of
his home ; to treat him otherwise is to
cause a dislocation in the home .
The impudence with which you conducted
yourself throughout this marriage has
become your albatross now that you want
him back. What were you expecting him to
do when you left him in the cold ? If you
cannot even remember the last time you
and your husband made love all because of
your so called career, then it tells of the
kind of wife you have been to him.
What woman packs from the master
bedroom into the guestroom and also
makes it difficult for her husband to gain
access to her body? A woman may earn all
the money in the world but she will never
be the man ; the reason he can get away
with having children outside his home and
you, struggling to awake the embers of a
fire you thoughtlessly poured water into.
You are lucky he had the discipline not to
have slept and impregnated your house -
helps . Another man with less discipline
would have and dared you to make noise
about it.
If you want him back, you have to first ask
yourself what is important to you as a
woman and mother. If he agrees to come
back, what are you willing to offer him? Are
you prepared to give up your career for him
and the children? Also you have to factor
the presence of the other woman and her
children into all these . If the other woman
has the support of the mother , she has
come to stay ; a situation you unfortunately
helped to create .
This isn ’ t just about you and your husband
anymore ; your efforts must incorporate the
other woman who whether you like it or not
has become your mate . Do you have that
special grace to share your husband with
another woman ? This isn ’ t time for
idealistic solutions; you have to be very
realistic about this.
If you don’ t have the stomach to share him
at all , be honest with yourself so you don’ t
complicate things for your children in the
long run because they are the ones that
would forever remain in the family .
Besides , it isn ’ t always wise for a woman to
be the one to end the marriage , because it
is one decision she will forever carry the
blame .
Since your husband hasn ’ t said anything
about ending the marriage , I suggest , you
continue to make the efforts of making the
marriage work ; at least if not for yourself
but , for your children who will not be able
to enjoy the presence of their father as they
used to .
By now, it should be clear to you that they
remain your most priceless gifts .
Go around his family members , including
his mother and friends to bring both of you
to the discussion table . Cry , apologise and
beg him for everything you have done
wrong. It may not give you instant result
but if you persist and patient, things will
work out between the two of you
eventually. No matter what your options
are, it is important you both talk about the
future of your marriage .
Also, resist the urge to go to the other
woman ’ s domain again . She had nothing to
do with the situation that drove your
husband out of your arms and home . You
did that all by yourself so don ’ t complicate
things by looking for a scapegoat.
Finally, go on your knees for a humble
spirit . Your pride went before your fall.
Good luck.
Why do bad girls get good men
Please help me. I don ’ t know what else to
do. I grew up in a Christian home and made
up my mind from an early age to avoid the
many temptations girls my age enter when
young.
Because of this decision, I was labeled anti-
social by many of my school and
classmates in both secondary school and
the university .
While my mates rollicked and frolicked with
different kinds of men , I kept my virginity
for my future husband .
I thought it would save me and my home
from the different social vices destroying
homes. After the euphoria of meeting me a
virgin worse off , my husband started to
complain about my inability to satisfy him in
bed.
From complaining about that he moved to
my inexperience when it comes to social
life. For instance , I don ’ t drink anything that
has alcohol in it; for him it is a problem
when we go out hence he has stopped
taking me out because he is tired of
explaining to his friends that I don’ t drink.
The result is my marriage of less than 18
months is headed for the rocks. I was lucky
to have gotten pregnant in the first few
weeks of our marriage . Since putting to bed
over six months ago, he has refused to
come near me. When I pointed his attention
to his neglect , he said , he doesn ’ t have the
time to be my teacher.
Funny enough, the marriage of one of my
school mates , notorious for her escapades
is doing very well . She and her husband are
always seen together. When I called her to
complain of what I ’ m going through , she
laughed and told me that her husband
cannot do with her because of what he is
getting from her . She said she acquired
enough experiences as a single lady to
keep her man tied to her side forever.
I ’ m writing to you because of the
information I have that my husband has
gone back to his ex , one of the bad girls in
our school in those days . For the first time ,
he beat me up and dared me to do my
worst. He said , she was more of a woman
than I would ever be .
The sad thing is , I don’ t even know how to
handle this.
I love my husband and don ’ t want to lose
him to any woman .
Please help me with useful tips on how to
make him want me because I can ’ t discuss
it with my mother who will only add to my
problems by calling me different names and
proceed to give me lectures on why a
woman must never hunger after sex . She
simply won ’ t understand my reasons . I
cannot also go to my friends because they
will only laugh at me. Why do good girls
have all the problems in their marriages
while the notorious bad ones have all the
good luck ? It isn ’ t fair because I worked
hard to keep myself for my husband.
Jummy.
Dear Jummy ,
Life has never been known to be fair on
anyone . It is a journey of struggles, choices
and good luck .
Those girls you tag as being notorious and
bad are also not without a vision for their
lives. Many of them learnt vital lessons from
their wild days. Good girls, too can be very
happy in their homes once they accept one
vital fact ; a woman ’ s place in her
husband’ s house is to make him happy
both inside and outside the bedroom.
Virginity is a precious gift to any man but
the woman , once she gets married must be
ready to learn and accept that sex is useful
to the sustainability of any marriage . Often
than not, the problem comes when the
woman wants to continue to live as if sex is
a just a necessity to an end and not a tool
of enhancement and satisfaction in a
marriage .
Truthfully , it isn ’ t the virginity that is the
problem but the attitude that the particular
woman brings into her marriage . If she is
coming with the attitude that the man has
to thank her for giving him something so
precious and sex for her should be treated
with a kind of sacredness, then she risks
running into trouble but , if after giving up
her virginity to her husband, she signals her
readiness to explore all the excitements that
accomplish sex in marriage , she opens
herself to be taught by her husband.
Once a woman is married , there is no more
mystery to sex. She must fully embrace it,
take it and also give it , to enable her and
her husband come to full appreciation for
this special gift.
But by continuing to live as if a virgin after
the wedding night , can really be boring for
a man who is used to sex or has the mind
of an explorer .
The mind of a man is excited by the things
he sees. Being in love has never stopped a
man from being tempted . It becomes very
difficult for the man to be sensible if he
isn ’ t get quality sex at home. For some
men it can be very frustrating . Since your
husband has told what the issue is in your
marriage , then you have something to work
on.
You may have married as a virgin but I ’ m
sure your days in the university left you
with some sense of fashion and a
broadness of mind .
By now you should be able to tell with pin
point accuracy how your husband wants
you to act in bed. If you don ’ t know by
now , then you have a lot of work ahead of
you. It means you haven ’ t done anything at
all to ameliorate and diffuse the sexual
tension brewing in your home; the reason
your husband has found solace in the arms
of another woman .
There are so many ways to win back a
promiscuous husband . One of such ways is
to take a look at your rival with a view of
knowing the advantage she has over you.
Since your husband has already strayed, it
will take more than sex to bring him back .
You have to first engage his interest in you
as a woman before you can show him your
new found confidence in the bedroom .
This means dressing to please him . You
have to deploy every method you know as
a woman to attract his interest in you. The
essence of this is quite simple ; once he
senses a shift in your dress sense to
something more attractive and sexy, he
becomes not just interested but frightened
that another man may find you beautiful
enough to approach you for a relationship .
To forestall that , he would begin to pay you
attention all over again . Once this happens ,
ensure you utilize your license as his wife
to trap him forever by cooking his favorite
food; something you should get from your
mother- in-law . Tell her you want to
impress her son hence needs her help in
teaching you how to make his favorite. For
the first time , buy the ingredients and take
them to her while you watch how she
makes it.
Follow this up by reading books on how to
achieve the sex of your dreams. Sex is as
natural as the air we take in. it is a matter
of allowing your natural instincts take over.
Don’ t debate anything; just move with the
tide inside of you. Forget about the
boundaries you once erected; they are no
longer necessary; scale that invisible wall to
the other side and see what life has to offer.
Most of the time , we are the stumbling
blocks to our breakthroughs in life.
There is nothing your husband is looking
for in another woman that you don ’ t have. It
is just that you are yet to discover your
strength as a woman .
Men like your husband can only help you
only after you have done your bit. It is only
then you can keep your husband to
yourself . There is no teacher like
experience.
Also learn to pray for the peace of your
home.
do. I grew up in a Christian home and made
up my mind from an early age to avoid the
many temptations girls my age enter when
young.
Because of this decision, I was labeled anti-
social by many of my school and
classmates in both secondary school and
the university .
While my mates rollicked and frolicked with
different kinds of men , I kept my virginity
for my future husband .
I thought it would save me and my home
from the different social vices destroying
homes. After the euphoria of meeting me a
virgin worse off , my husband started to
complain about my inability to satisfy him in
bed.
From complaining about that he moved to
my inexperience when it comes to social
life. For instance , I don ’ t drink anything that
has alcohol in it; for him it is a problem
when we go out hence he has stopped
taking me out because he is tired of
explaining to his friends that I don’ t drink.
The result is my marriage of less than 18
months is headed for the rocks. I was lucky
to have gotten pregnant in the first few
weeks of our marriage . Since putting to bed
over six months ago, he has refused to
come near me. When I pointed his attention
to his neglect , he said , he doesn ’ t have the
time to be my teacher.
Funny enough, the marriage of one of my
school mates , notorious for her escapades
is doing very well . She and her husband are
always seen together. When I called her to
complain of what I ’ m going through , she
laughed and told me that her husband
cannot do with her because of what he is
getting from her . She said she acquired
enough experiences as a single lady to
keep her man tied to her side forever.
I ’ m writing to you because of the
information I have that my husband has
gone back to his ex , one of the bad girls in
our school in those days . For the first time ,
he beat me up and dared me to do my
worst. He said , she was more of a woman
than I would ever be .
The sad thing is , I don’ t even know how to
handle this.
I love my husband and don ’ t want to lose
him to any woman .
Please help me with useful tips on how to
make him want me because I can ’ t discuss
it with my mother who will only add to my
problems by calling me different names and
proceed to give me lectures on why a
woman must never hunger after sex . She
simply won ’ t understand my reasons . I
cannot also go to my friends because they
will only laugh at me. Why do good girls
have all the problems in their marriages
while the notorious bad ones have all the
good luck ? It isn ’ t fair because I worked
hard to keep myself for my husband.
Jummy.
Dear Jummy ,
Life has never been known to be fair on
anyone . It is a journey of struggles, choices
and good luck .
Those girls you tag as being notorious and
bad are also not without a vision for their
lives. Many of them learnt vital lessons from
their wild days. Good girls, too can be very
happy in their homes once they accept one
vital fact ; a woman ’ s place in her
husband’ s house is to make him happy
both inside and outside the bedroom.
Virginity is a precious gift to any man but
the woman , once she gets married must be
ready to learn and accept that sex is useful
to the sustainability of any marriage . Often
than not, the problem comes when the
woman wants to continue to live as if sex is
a just a necessity to an end and not a tool
of enhancement and satisfaction in a
marriage .
Truthfully , it isn ’ t the virginity that is the
problem but the attitude that the particular
woman brings into her marriage . If she is
coming with the attitude that the man has
to thank her for giving him something so
precious and sex for her should be treated
with a kind of sacredness, then she risks
running into trouble but , if after giving up
her virginity to her husband, she signals her
readiness to explore all the excitements that
accomplish sex in marriage , she opens
herself to be taught by her husband.
Once a woman is married , there is no more
mystery to sex. She must fully embrace it,
take it and also give it , to enable her and
her husband come to full appreciation for
this special gift.
But by continuing to live as if a virgin after
the wedding night , can really be boring for
a man who is used to sex or has the mind
of an explorer .
The mind of a man is excited by the things
he sees. Being in love has never stopped a
man from being tempted . It becomes very
difficult for the man to be sensible if he
isn ’ t get quality sex at home. For some
men it can be very frustrating . Since your
husband has told what the issue is in your
marriage , then you have something to work
on.
You may have married as a virgin but I ’ m
sure your days in the university left you
with some sense of fashion and a
broadness of mind .
By now you should be able to tell with pin
point accuracy how your husband wants
you to act in bed. If you don ’ t know by
now , then you have a lot of work ahead of
you. It means you haven ’ t done anything at
all to ameliorate and diffuse the sexual
tension brewing in your home; the reason
your husband has found solace in the arms
of another woman .
There are so many ways to win back a
promiscuous husband . One of such ways is
to take a look at your rival with a view of
knowing the advantage she has over you.
Since your husband has already strayed, it
will take more than sex to bring him back .
You have to first engage his interest in you
as a woman before you can show him your
new found confidence in the bedroom .
This means dressing to please him . You
have to deploy every method you know as
a woman to attract his interest in you. The
essence of this is quite simple ; once he
senses a shift in your dress sense to
something more attractive and sexy, he
becomes not just interested but frightened
that another man may find you beautiful
enough to approach you for a relationship .
To forestall that , he would begin to pay you
attention all over again . Once this happens ,
ensure you utilize your license as his wife
to trap him forever by cooking his favorite
food; something you should get from your
mother- in-law . Tell her you want to
impress her son hence needs her help in
teaching you how to make his favorite. For
the first time , buy the ingredients and take
them to her while you watch how she
makes it.
Follow this up by reading books on how to
achieve the sex of your dreams. Sex is as
natural as the air we take in. it is a matter
of allowing your natural instincts take over.
Don’ t debate anything; just move with the
tide inside of you. Forget about the
boundaries you once erected; they are no
longer necessary; scale that invisible wall to
the other side and see what life has to offer.
Most of the time , we are the stumbling
blocks to our breakthroughs in life.
There is nothing your husband is looking
for in another woman that you don ’ t have. It
is just that you are yet to discover your
strength as a woman .
Men like your husband can only help you
only after you have done your bit. It is only
then you can keep your husband to
yourself . There is no teacher like
experience.
Also learn to pray for the peace of your
home.
Saturday, June 28, 2014
My wife is a lesbian
I have been married to a woman I thought I
deeply loved .
I ’ m a graduate with a master degree in
business administration and self employed .
We have a very beautiful home and two
cars . We are also blessed with three boys
and whenever resources permit, we travel
overseas for holidays .
I have suddenly discovered that my wife
doesn ’ t listen to my advice or take me
serious. She is never at home and I have
become the most lonely married man . She
prefers to hang out with her friends and if
possible, remain with them at the slightest
opportunity . I have tried to stop this but to
no avail.
I have become both father and mother to
our children; taking them to school and
church . She only comes to church when
she makes a new dress.
To be frank no member of my family has
any affinity with her . None of them comes
for visit because of my wife ’ s attitude . I
have protested , even sending her friends
out of the house but nothing has changed .
She owes a boutique where all manner of
people come to. I sent her to the university
but she came back without a certificate to
show for it.
I recently met with a pastor who told me
that my wife was into lesbian relationships
and would need divine intervention to come
out of. When I spoke with her about it she
admitted being into it when she was in
secondary school and that she has
stopped.
I ’ m worried because all her friends appear
to be her lovers .
I don’ t have peace of mind any more .
Recently one of her brothers told me his
sister has always been a lesbian and that
one friend she said she would visit during
her planned visit to the United States is one
of her lovers .
I ’ m fed up . We are Catholics and divorce is
forbidden .
In this circumstance , what do I do? I get
easily irritated by her and want to keep my
distance. I don ’ t trust her one bit.
Please give me your sincere advice.
Worried Husband .
Dear Worried Husband ,
One of the greatest challenges facing
modern marriages is the issue of
homosexuality , painfully being helped by
the permissiveness of the Western world.
Our penchant here to wholesomely copy
western values without questions isn ’ t also
helping matters especially as they relate to
our traditional value system . Agonizingly,
the marriage institution is the one suffering
the most .
Situation as you have described , takes
absolute caution and wisdom to overcome .
Your solution is in the strength of your love
for your family. If you peg it only on what
you currently feels for your wife , you will
never have that extra determination to make
it work at all cost .
You have to extend your solutions to the
welfare and feelings of your sons who from
the age of your marriage still need the
presence of their mother. Also , you have to
consider the psychological complications on
your children should your marriage break
up at a time you are clearly ill - equipped
emotionally to fathom why she is the way
she is .
This is what you should market to her . You
have to have very strong shock absorbers
to wrestle your home from the abyss it is
headed to .
This is the time in your marriage when you
have to face the truth about certain signs
you ignored in the past , accept your faults
in the prevailing situation in your home with
a view of sourcing for solutions around her
habit.
If her family member confirmed her
membership of the homosexual club ; then
she didn ’ t develop the habit in your house .
This means the problem has always been in
your relationship but you just didn’ t know
because you either were naïve in detecting
the signs or ignored them because you
thought whatever the budding challenge
was then , you could deal with it.
The truth is , a problem such as the one you
described usually presents itself very early
in the life of a relationship. You should have
known or seen some of the signs when you
were dating.
Back then , who were her closest friends;
how did she and these friends conduct
themselves? If truly she has been a lesbian
from school , then her lovers would still be
around her. Who among these friends has
been in her life since you married her and
who appears to be jealous of you; who for
no explicable reasons , simply doesn ’ t agree
with you in everything and who despite her
hostility to you, has remained firm in her
life?
If she has a friend like that; one who
appears so close to her ; one whose reason
for their being friendship, you cannot define,
you might need to call that friend for
discussion. This isn ’ t time for you to be
expressive about your dislike for these
kinds of friends; rather, it is the time to play
your wisdom card by appearing to be
solicitous and needing of their help .
Although they are women , don ’ t forget they
are your rivals for the heart of the woman
who is your wife and the mother of your
children.
The fact that you are worried about her,
concerned about the company she keeps
tells a story of a man who despite
everything, is still in love with his wife .
Deny it all you like but the truth is , you do .
So , in seeking audience with this woman ,
be careful you don’ t hurt her with your
attitude of condemnation because she has
the power to make things more difficult
between you and your wife .
By deliberately engaging her company when
they know she should be at home with you
and her children , is to inform you of the
hold they have over her . This is in reaction
to your hostility towards them . It was a
very big error because women lovers can
be very vicious and domineering when it
comes to protecting their territory .
By offering her main woman ; the olive
branch , you open the path for negotiation
between you and them . But first , you have
to know if your wife is the male or female in
their relationship . This would inform the
kinds of things to say to this friend of hers.
If she is the female, be prepared to for
some scratches and visible claws .
But she would eventually thaw enough to
listen to you and listen to what your offers
are. You may have to promise her some
monetary settlement to water down her
influence over your wife . If she is still
single ; it means she is a chronic lesbian in
which case, you may have to part with
some hefty money to relocate her and a
combination of threats and pleas to let your
woman be .
If she is the male ; it is going to be a battle
of egoism and the traditional male desire to
stamp authority of ownership . This means ,
money won ’ t work with her because to be
the male , she must have the means to
sustain such relationship. You therefore
have to rely so much on your skill as a
business administrator to negotiate the
freedom of your wife and home from her .
In all , you must find ways of getting close to
your wife again . If possible , devote more
time to her; going to be with her in the
shop; taking her out on impromptu outings ,
becoming more loving ; finding out new
ways she wants to be loved ; this means
giving her the freedom to explore in the
bedroom and organizing family outings to
show her the other side of life.
It is also a period for both of you to sit
down and discuss your early lives before
you met ; sometimes, habits like this
develop when the adults in our lives
become so unreasonable and hostile .
Usually it is to escape notice from
overbearing adults that habits like this
evolve. By taking her to her past ; that is if
you can find the pleasantness of mind to
overcome your current irritations at her way
of life , you maybe able to help wean of this
habit.
At times, it is a very simple matter of
making them see reason as well as the
quality of love waiting for them when they
come out of their mindless quest to destroy
themselves.
This is the time to also enlist your children ;
let them suffocate her with their presence ,
ask her questions like why she is not
always around them like the mothers of
their friends, why she appears to prefer the
company of her friends to them and how
she would be all alone when all these
friends leave her one day ; will help her
begin to consider issues she never thought
were important . Hearing you confess your
love and her children reminding her of the
most important things in life , will eventually
make her see reasons . Just learn to be
patient and tolerant .
If you know there is nothing God cannot do,
stand in gap for your woman . Pray for her
deliverance so you can enjoy your
marriage .
Also acknowledge that the fault may also
have come from you during the years you
were trying to build your business .
Good luck.
deeply loved .
I ’ m a graduate with a master degree in
business administration and self employed .
We have a very beautiful home and two
cars . We are also blessed with three boys
and whenever resources permit, we travel
overseas for holidays .
I have suddenly discovered that my wife
doesn ’ t listen to my advice or take me
serious. She is never at home and I have
become the most lonely married man . She
prefers to hang out with her friends and if
possible, remain with them at the slightest
opportunity . I have tried to stop this but to
no avail.
I have become both father and mother to
our children; taking them to school and
church . She only comes to church when
she makes a new dress.
To be frank no member of my family has
any affinity with her . None of them comes
for visit because of my wife ’ s attitude . I
have protested , even sending her friends
out of the house but nothing has changed .
She owes a boutique where all manner of
people come to. I sent her to the university
but she came back without a certificate to
show for it.
I recently met with a pastor who told me
that my wife was into lesbian relationships
and would need divine intervention to come
out of. When I spoke with her about it she
admitted being into it when she was in
secondary school and that she has
stopped.
I ’ m worried because all her friends appear
to be her lovers .
I don’ t have peace of mind any more .
Recently one of her brothers told me his
sister has always been a lesbian and that
one friend she said she would visit during
her planned visit to the United States is one
of her lovers .
I ’ m fed up . We are Catholics and divorce is
forbidden .
In this circumstance , what do I do? I get
easily irritated by her and want to keep my
distance. I don ’ t trust her one bit.
Please give me your sincere advice.
Worried Husband .
Dear Worried Husband ,
One of the greatest challenges facing
modern marriages is the issue of
homosexuality , painfully being helped by
the permissiveness of the Western world.
Our penchant here to wholesomely copy
western values without questions isn ’ t also
helping matters especially as they relate to
our traditional value system . Agonizingly,
the marriage institution is the one suffering
the most .
Situation as you have described , takes
absolute caution and wisdom to overcome .
Your solution is in the strength of your love
for your family. If you peg it only on what
you currently feels for your wife , you will
never have that extra determination to make
it work at all cost .
You have to extend your solutions to the
welfare and feelings of your sons who from
the age of your marriage still need the
presence of their mother. Also , you have to
consider the psychological complications on
your children should your marriage break
up at a time you are clearly ill - equipped
emotionally to fathom why she is the way
she is .
This is what you should market to her . You
have to have very strong shock absorbers
to wrestle your home from the abyss it is
headed to .
This is the time in your marriage when you
have to face the truth about certain signs
you ignored in the past , accept your faults
in the prevailing situation in your home with
a view of sourcing for solutions around her
habit.
If her family member confirmed her
membership of the homosexual club ; then
she didn ’ t develop the habit in your house .
This means the problem has always been in
your relationship but you just didn’ t know
because you either were naïve in detecting
the signs or ignored them because you
thought whatever the budding challenge
was then , you could deal with it.
The truth is , a problem such as the one you
described usually presents itself very early
in the life of a relationship. You should have
known or seen some of the signs when you
were dating.
Back then , who were her closest friends;
how did she and these friends conduct
themselves? If truly she has been a lesbian
from school , then her lovers would still be
around her. Who among these friends has
been in her life since you married her and
who appears to be jealous of you; who for
no explicable reasons , simply doesn ’ t agree
with you in everything and who despite her
hostility to you, has remained firm in her
life?
If she has a friend like that; one who
appears so close to her ; one whose reason
for their being friendship, you cannot define,
you might need to call that friend for
discussion. This isn ’ t time for you to be
expressive about your dislike for these
kinds of friends; rather, it is the time to play
your wisdom card by appearing to be
solicitous and needing of their help .
Although they are women , don ’ t forget they
are your rivals for the heart of the woman
who is your wife and the mother of your
children.
The fact that you are worried about her,
concerned about the company she keeps
tells a story of a man who despite
everything, is still in love with his wife .
Deny it all you like but the truth is , you do .
So , in seeking audience with this woman ,
be careful you don’ t hurt her with your
attitude of condemnation because she has
the power to make things more difficult
between you and your wife .
By deliberately engaging her company when
they know she should be at home with you
and her children , is to inform you of the
hold they have over her . This is in reaction
to your hostility towards them . It was a
very big error because women lovers can
be very vicious and domineering when it
comes to protecting their territory .
By offering her main woman ; the olive
branch , you open the path for negotiation
between you and them . But first , you have
to know if your wife is the male or female in
their relationship . This would inform the
kinds of things to say to this friend of hers.
If she is the female, be prepared to for
some scratches and visible claws .
But she would eventually thaw enough to
listen to you and listen to what your offers
are. You may have to promise her some
monetary settlement to water down her
influence over your wife . If she is still
single ; it means she is a chronic lesbian in
which case, you may have to part with
some hefty money to relocate her and a
combination of threats and pleas to let your
woman be .
If she is the male ; it is going to be a battle
of egoism and the traditional male desire to
stamp authority of ownership . This means ,
money won ’ t work with her because to be
the male , she must have the means to
sustain such relationship. You therefore
have to rely so much on your skill as a
business administrator to negotiate the
freedom of your wife and home from her .
In all , you must find ways of getting close to
your wife again . If possible , devote more
time to her; going to be with her in the
shop; taking her out on impromptu outings ,
becoming more loving ; finding out new
ways she wants to be loved ; this means
giving her the freedom to explore in the
bedroom and organizing family outings to
show her the other side of life.
It is also a period for both of you to sit
down and discuss your early lives before
you met ; sometimes, habits like this
develop when the adults in our lives
become so unreasonable and hostile .
Usually it is to escape notice from
overbearing adults that habits like this
evolve. By taking her to her past ; that is if
you can find the pleasantness of mind to
overcome your current irritations at her way
of life , you maybe able to help wean of this
habit.
At times, it is a very simple matter of
making them see reason as well as the
quality of love waiting for them when they
come out of their mindless quest to destroy
themselves.
This is the time to also enlist your children ;
let them suffocate her with their presence ,
ask her questions like why she is not
always around them like the mothers of
their friends, why she appears to prefer the
company of her friends to them and how
she would be all alone when all these
friends leave her one day ; will help her
begin to consider issues she never thought
were important . Hearing you confess your
love and her children reminding her of the
most important things in life , will eventually
make her see reasons . Just learn to be
patient and tolerant .
If you know there is nothing God cannot do,
stand in gap for your woman . Pray for her
deliverance so you can enjoy your
marriage .
Also acknowledge that the fault may also
have come from you during the years you
were trying to build your business .
Good luck.
My husband is complaining of my incompetence in bed... Daily Independent
I recently got
married. And my husband is already
complaining about my sexual performance
he says I don’ t get wet . I don ’ t know what
to do. Please help me as I ’ m disturbed .
Chinyere .
Dear Chinyere ,
Sex is strategic to the survival of a
marriage . Without quality sex , the man has
every excuse to become unfaithful.
If your husband is complaining, then ask for
his help with whatever limitations you have .
If he is saying you are not getting wet
enough for him to have easy access into
your body, then he has every reason to
complain because in the process of forcing
himself in, both of you would get bruised .
When a woman is not lubricated enough it
makes sex appear like rape for the couple .
If you aren’ t getting wet enough , it also
means you aren’ t enjoying sex as you
should. It is as much his right and yours
too to enjoy this God given package to
couples .
So the business of getting you wet must
also be important to you because it is your
right as a married woman to benefit from
the experience .
This is why it is important for a woman to
be wet before welcoming her husband into
her body.
Naturally , the woman ’ s body is designed to
produce her lubrications if properly
stimulated but not every woman has it in
her to produce the quality of fluid to
accommodate her husband effortlessly .
So many factors conspire to make a woman
unable to produce enough fluid to appease
her husband. First, which is often the major
challenge women in Africa has , is
circumcision. A woman who has been
circumcised will never be able to
completely enjoy sex because the sensitive
part of her woman - head has been chopped
off . This kind of woman requires extra
effort , understanding , patience and help
from her man to prime .
If you have been circumcised , then you
must explain your situation to your husband
so he knows what your circumstantial
situation is . Although he should know by
looking at your anatomy; but not all men
bother to study the bodies of their wives.
If your husband is the kind that isn ’ t
interested in looking at every part of your
body; just concerned about his mission , let
him know. If you too don ’ t know, ask your
mother if you were circumcised ; that is , if
you are too shy to explore and study your
body.
This way , he will know what to do and how
to offer you his assistance to make you
perform better .
Again, not all men have the understanding
and tolerance to make it work well for the
woman whose clitoris has been chopped off
by the circumcisers.
He should have the patience to help bring
her close through his hands and tongue to
her peak before going into her . There is no
woman who cannot give pleasure if she has
a willingly , tolerant and adventurous man as
her partner.
This you have to explain to your husband.
One thing is for him to expect exceptional
performance from you; another thing is for
him to assist you in the quest of giving you
both satisfaction.
Fortunately, God wired our sexual pangs the
way all basic human functions were
structured by him- primeval Nobody sits
anybody down to teach sex ; what we can
only learn are the various techniques that
can enhance our performances .
Encourage your husband and you to flow
along with your natural instincts . Doing this
will make it easier to add your own
initiatives. By not depending on your
husband alone to do all the work , you open
the doors for both of you to explore your
natural predispositions and find a common
ground to navigate a special path to a
foundation that binds every couple need to
stay connected .
Sometimes too , it has to do with the kind of
background one was given as a child . If
your parents hammed into you that sex is
dirty and should not be enjoyed ; there is no
way it will not affect your attitude . If this is
the kind of background you had; you must
perish such inhibitions because you are
now married and able to enjoy sex to the
fullest . The man in question is your
husband so you are not breaking any rule
by throwing caution to the wind. The naked
truth is , if don’ t grow out of whatever
prudish lessons you were given as a child
on sex; you will never see sex as a tool of
adventure in marriage . Beyond its
procreation purpose it is also recreation .
Once your husband gets tired of
complaining, he might want to try
something different outside the home. And
if his exploration gives him satisfaction, you
will be the one to suffer from the
consequences . This is why you must never
give another woman the chance to better
you in anything that has to do with your
home and husband.
Even if you don’ t like sex because of what
they told you about it, you should make the
effort to enjoy it for the sake of your
husband and marriage .
Because of this, make the effort to give your
body a good study to make it easy for you
to discover where your erotic zones are.
Once you know , you will know where to
place the hands of your husband to make
the moment suitable for both of you.
No two women are the same . While some
have their erotic zones wired to their
nipples others have it in other places of
their bodies .
Without you knowing where yours are; how
can you help your husband make you
happy ? Like the whole relationship and
marriage thing; sex is a symbiotic thing ;
one that requires the man and woman to
bring together their knowledge and efforts
to make it whole.
You cannot leave all the work to your
husband just as he cannot leave all the
responsibility for his enjoyment to you.
That you are not getting wet means he is
also not doing his part very well . Both of
you just have to sit and dialogue about it .
This isn ’ t time for you to be afraid of
talking ; to sit back and accept all the
responsibility will make it difficult for both
of you to really bond and find the way
forward together. He has to help you come
to your full self as a woman . You also have
to find a way of making him come into his
full enjoyment as a man.
Another thing is for you to relax . There is
never any need for you to be anxious when
it comes to intimacy with your man . When
a woman is relaxed and has her mind on
the business at hand, there is no height she
and her husband cannot achieve .
Also reading well -structured books on sex
can also be of great help . Such books are
inspired to help couples become happier in
the bedroom .
In addition the position the couple adopt
when making love can either help increase
the urge , keep it down or completely
destroy the mood . By urging your husband
to experiment with different positions, it will
increase your excitement .
One mistake a lot of women make is
pretending they are happy with whatever
posture or attitude of their husbands in bed.
In your case, it could be a minor matter of
him adopting a different approach that will
fire your desire . Sex is not just about the
couple sleeping together and parting ; it
takes more than the act to make it work
well for both parties.
The thing is for you not to be limited by
your fears ; this is the point you begin to
define your marriage and your needs too in
the marriage ; one, you must make your
husband realize that you both have roles to
play in the sustenance of this union .
Don’ t be afraid to flaunt your sexuality to
your husband because if you don ’ t do it,
one of the many unscrupulous women
outside shall . That will signal the beginning
of problems in your home.
By subtly learning from and teaching your
husband the thrills of sex ; you would be
stabilizing your home and giving yourself
the peace of mind to build your marriage .
For now until you are able to get it right,
you could use Vaseline or gels designed to
help the body of the woman stay moist for
her husband.
But remember, it isn ’ t something you can
use often because the fun of being together
is the surprise factor . Sex should be able to
happen anywhere if the couple is gamed
which is why you must work at finding your
footing .
married. And my husband is already
complaining about my sexual performance
he says I don’ t get wet . I don ’ t know what
to do. Please help me as I ’ m disturbed .
Chinyere .
Dear Chinyere ,
Sex is strategic to the survival of a
marriage . Without quality sex , the man has
every excuse to become unfaithful.
If your husband is complaining, then ask for
his help with whatever limitations you have .
If he is saying you are not getting wet
enough for him to have easy access into
your body, then he has every reason to
complain because in the process of forcing
himself in, both of you would get bruised .
When a woman is not lubricated enough it
makes sex appear like rape for the couple .
If you aren’ t getting wet enough , it also
means you aren’ t enjoying sex as you
should. It is as much his right and yours
too to enjoy this God given package to
couples .
So the business of getting you wet must
also be important to you because it is your
right as a married woman to benefit from
the experience .
This is why it is important for a woman to
be wet before welcoming her husband into
her body.
Naturally , the woman ’ s body is designed to
produce her lubrications if properly
stimulated but not every woman has it in
her to produce the quality of fluid to
accommodate her husband effortlessly .
So many factors conspire to make a woman
unable to produce enough fluid to appease
her husband. First, which is often the major
challenge women in Africa has , is
circumcision. A woman who has been
circumcised will never be able to
completely enjoy sex because the sensitive
part of her woman - head has been chopped
off . This kind of woman requires extra
effort , understanding , patience and help
from her man to prime .
If you have been circumcised , then you
must explain your situation to your husband
so he knows what your circumstantial
situation is . Although he should know by
looking at your anatomy; but not all men
bother to study the bodies of their wives.
If your husband is the kind that isn ’ t
interested in looking at every part of your
body; just concerned about his mission , let
him know. If you too don ’ t know, ask your
mother if you were circumcised ; that is , if
you are too shy to explore and study your
body.
This way , he will know what to do and how
to offer you his assistance to make you
perform better .
Again, not all men have the understanding
and tolerance to make it work well for the
woman whose clitoris has been chopped off
by the circumcisers.
He should have the patience to help bring
her close through his hands and tongue to
her peak before going into her . There is no
woman who cannot give pleasure if she has
a willingly , tolerant and adventurous man as
her partner.
This you have to explain to your husband.
One thing is for him to expect exceptional
performance from you; another thing is for
him to assist you in the quest of giving you
both satisfaction.
Fortunately, God wired our sexual pangs the
way all basic human functions were
structured by him- primeval Nobody sits
anybody down to teach sex ; what we can
only learn are the various techniques that
can enhance our performances .
Encourage your husband and you to flow
along with your natural instincts . Doing this
will make it easier to add your own
initiatives. By not depending on your
husband alone to do all the work , you open
the doors for both of you to explore your
natural predispositions and find a common
ground to navigate a special path to a
foundation that binds every couple need to
stay connected .
Sometimes too , it has to do with the kind of
background one was given as a child . If
your parents hammed into you that sex is
dirty and should not be enjoyed ; there is no
way it will not affect your attitude . If this is
the kind of background you had; you must
perish such inhibitions because you are
now married and able to enjoy sex to the
fullest . The man in question is your
husband so you are not breaking any rule
by throwing caution to the wind. The naked
truth is , if don’ t grow out of whatever
prudish lessons you were given as a child
on sex; you will never see sex as a tool of
adventure in marriage . Beyond its
procreation purpose it is also recreation .
Once your husband gets tired of
complaining, he might want to try
something different outside the home. And
if his exploration gives him satisfaction, you
will be the one to suffer from the
consequences . This is why you must never
give another woman the chance to better
you in anything that has to do with your
home and husband.
Even if you don’ t like sex because of what
they told you about it, you should make the
effort to enjoy it for the sake of your
husband and marriage .
Because of this, make the effort to give your
body a good study to make it easy for you
to discover where your erotic zones are.
Once you know , you will know where to
place the hands of your husband to make
the moment suitable for both of you.
No two women are the same . While some
have their erotic zones wired to their
nipples others have it in other places of
their bodies .
Without you knowing where yours are; how
can you help your husband make you
happy ? Like the whole relationship and
marriage thing; sex is a symbiotic thing ;
one that requires the man and woman to
bring together their knowledge and efforts
to make it whole.
You cannot leave all the work to your
husband just as he cannot leave all the
responsibility for his enjoyment to you.
That you are not getting wet means he is
also not doing his part very well . Both of
you just have to sit and dialogue about it .
This isn ’ t time for you to be afraid of
talking ; to sit back and accept all the
responsibility will make it difficult for both
of you to really bond and find the way
forward together. He has to help you come
to your full self as a woman . You also have
to find a way of making him come into his
full enjoyment as a man.
Another thing is for you to relax . There is
never any need for you to be anxious when
it comes to intimacy with your man . When
a woman is relaxed and has her mind on
the business at hand, there is no height she
and her husband cannot achieve .
Also reading well -structured books on sex
can also be of great help . Such books are
inspired to help couples become happier in
the bedroom .
In addition the position the couple adopt
when making love can either help increase
the urge , keep it down or completely
destroy the mood . By urging your husband
to experiment with different positions, it will
increase your excitement .
One mistake a lot of women make is
pretending they are happy with whatever
posture or attitude of their husbands in bed.
In your case, it could be a minor matter of
him adopting a different approach that will
fire your desire . Sex is not just about the
couple sleeping together and parting ; it
takes more than the act to make it work
well for both parties.
The thing is for you not to be limited by
your fears ; this is the point you begin to
define your marriage and your needs too in
the marriage ; one, you must make your
husband realize that you both have roles to
play in the sustenance of this union .
Don’ t be afraid to flaunt your sexuality to
your husband because if you don ’ t do it,
one of the many unscrupulous women
outside shall . That will signal the beginning
of problems in your home.
By subtly learning from and teaching your
husband the thrills of sex ; you would be
stabilizing your home and giving yourself
the peace of mind to build your marriage .
For now until you are able to get it right,
you could use Vaseline or gels designed to
help the body of the woman stay moist for
her husband.
But remember, it isn ’ t something you can
use often because the fun of being together
is the surprise factor . Sex should be able to
happen anywhere if the couple is gamed
which is why you must work at finding your
footing .
For those who worry about their size...culled from daily independent
It is amazing the way most men worry
about the size of their manhood . One would
have thought with the amount of information
on sex, men would stop worry about the
size and concentrate more on what can be
achieved with what they have.
Sincerely, for most women , size may not
matter as much as the effectiveness of the
art , provided men are ready to break new
grounds as well as do away with traditional
stereotypes that insist sex is a forbidden
thing , done only for procreation and should
not be recreational. Within the bounds of
marriage , such stereotypes only serve to
dull excitement embedded in the marriage
package. This is why men continue to think
size is the same thing as efficiency and
authority . Women respect the efficiency and
the sense of responsibility of a man not the
size of his manhood .
Therefore , there is nothing stopping a man
with smaller manhood from sexually
satisfying a woman . This is because only
the first few inches of the virginal are
sexually receptive . Hence once a man is
able to have contact with the outer rim of
the virginal, he can satisfy his woman
sexually . Besides, the clitoris is placed
where any size can reach it. This is
because God in his infinite wisdom
designed the woman ’ s body in such a way
to get satisfaction and give it to any man
even if small sized.
Size is more psychological than biological .
It only becomes an issue if couples allow it
a place of pride in their relationships.
This is one issue that has continually come
up which despite all attempts at resolving,
keeps coming up .
In the first place, nobody can tell what the
ideal size of a woman ’ s breasts or male
organ should be , but a recent survey puts
the average size of an active male organ at
between 5. 5 to 6 . 3 inches. But the majority
falls between 4. 7 and 5 . 1 inches.
However, the secret to complete happiness
is for a man to be happy with what he has
because that is what makes him unique.
This is the point you must learn to accept
yourself . Yes, your wife has an opinion , but
you must make her understand that your
size has nothing to do with your ability to
satisfy her . If she loves you, she would not
leave you for another man no matter the
challenge with your size. What you both
need is a lot of imagination as well as the
openness to experiment without
reservations.
When it comes to the art of lovemaking ,
size and width do not matter as much as
the imagination of a couple . Some men are
excessively endowed, but find it extremely
difficult to get any woman to stay with them
because of the inability of most women to
accommodate them .
To get a woman to stay with them, such
men must learn, just like the less endowed
men, to rely more on their hands , tongues
and mouth to get the female going. These
are the art that makes one experience more
different from the other .
Because love within a marriage is meant to
be expressed beyond measure, a definite
gift from God, you and your wife must first
bury whatever prejudices you both grew up
with . To get to the kernel , lot of works ,
perseverance , interest as well as
determination must first be deployed
towards cracking the shell. The same
principle applies to the art of lovemaking,
especially where a couple hits a challenge
like yours.
You , being the one with the perceived
problem, must be willing to do everything
within limits to ensure your partner doesn ’ t
escape with the feeling of being cheated or
anger at being deceived by you into a union
she won ’ t get the maximum sexual
satisfaction from.
To this end, you must encourage her to
speak out her mind at every point , listen to
her suggestions on how to please her as
well as follow with a clear mind her
initiatives.
Like every other thing in life , lovemaking
isn ’ t static . It must be continually upgraded
and distilled to give a couple the right
blends . This means a couple must not only
strive to achieve excellence, but must do
everything to patent their own act to fit into
their uniqueness . For example , the
technique that works for your friend and his
partner may not work for you, because they
don’ t have the challenge you and your
partner have.
So , you must first evaluate not only the
urgent problems but all those that are
hidden as well . For instance the issue is not
only that of you not having the ideal length
of manhood ? Would having the ideal length
solve the problem of your lack of sexual
satisfaction once and for all ? Remember
that for most women , satisfaction and not
the size of the male organ is what matters
at the end of the day .
Make her talk and give her the concomitant
freedom to really express herself on the
matter. Don’ t shut her up, feel bad or get
suspicious when she is making her opinion
on the matter known. Although your wife ,
she is an adult with an adult mind and
desires hence must be given the same
recognition as you to be happy with the
choice she made to love you
unconditionally .
The danger of not involving her in your
quest for solutions is the possibility of
losing her completely to another man. This
is one salient fact you must not overlook.
She has the right to discontinue if she feels
she is not being given the right to her
desires . This is why you must enlist her
help . So , tell your wife to stop complaining
and think of productive ways of achieving
sexual satisfaction with you. Tell her she
has all the freedom in the world to use her
imagination to help both of you become
better lovers because you both are licensed
by God and man to tap into sex unlimited
nectar.
This is the only way to make her stop
complaining as well as secure her only
understanding and support to make her
happy . You have to break away from the
traditions that insist sexual satisfaction falls
under the exclusive male list . This is the
point man and the society creates problems
within the marriage institution . When there
is a sexual dissatisfaction within the
marriage framework, irrespective of who is
complaining, it behoves on the couple to
adopt a liberal and sincere attitude towards
its solution. Frankly , when it comes to the
delicate issue of sex, it is neither a man or
woman ’ s world. Rather, it is a world of
happiness and satisfaction.
What you should do is to look for quality
books that talk about positions and
postures couples seeking ultimate joy in
sex should adopt . There are some positions
that seem to give more volume to the male
organ . Google the Internet for information
on such books or ask your book retailer .
These books are not pornography materials,
rather they are well researched quality
books put together by highly educated
individuals who from years of researches
know that sex to man is as important as the
air we all breathe . Once man is able to
overcome the pretences and admit to the
essence of sex, solutions to sexual
challenges become very easy.
As for your second question, yes there are
ways to increase the size of a male organ ,
but some of them are dubious, which is why
it is very important a couple works at
finding its own rhythm , rather than
concentrating efforts on getting a solution
that might not be forthcoming or could lead
to more emotional and psychological
frustrations at the end of the day .
There are penile enhancement surgeries
where penis can be lengthened to more
than 10 inches . But the urgent question is :
How would you determine the depth of your
woman ’ s body? The average for a woman
is about four to eight inches , which means
your woman may not be able to
accommodate you if you are very huge. Do
you really want to get into measuring your
anatomy like a tailor measuring clothes ?
Would your wife in her quest to make you
have the right size allow her depth to be
measured so that you are done to fit her
perfectly ?
In addition , these operations cost real
money because they fall within the category
of plastic surgery . Do you have the money
and at the end of the day , would the fee
charged be worth the satisfaction?
There are also many herbal pills and
exercises that claim to increase size, but
you may have to go to NAFDAC to get the
list of such drugs cleared for human
consumption . It would be interesting to
know what animals these drugs , claiming
this magic were first tested on before
releasing them for human consumption .
Believe me, your imagination and
willingness to experiment is your best bet .
Don’ t forget that God that made both of you
an item has already known why and has
given both of you the individual as well as
collective strength to achieve the
impossible together. There is no subject or
problem He is ignorant of. Asking Him for
help and wisdom would also help you and
your wife greatly.
about the size of their manhood . One would
have thought with the amount of information
on sex, men would stop worry about the
size and concentrate more on what can be
achieved with what they have.
Sincerely, for most women , size may not
matter as much as the effectiveness of the
art , provided men are ready to break new
grounds as well as do away with traditional
stereotypes that insist sex is a forbidden
thing , done only for procreation and should
not be recreational. Within the bounds of
marriage , such stereotypes only serve to
dull excitement embedded in the marriage
package. This is why men continue to think
size is the same thing as efficiency and
authority . Women respect the efficiency and
the sense of responsibility of a man not the
size of his manhood .
Therefore , there is nothing stopping a man
with smaller manhood from sexually
satisfying a woman . This is because only
the first few inches of the virginal are
sexually receptive . Hence once a man is
able to have contact with the outer rim of
the virginal, he can satisfy his woman
sexually . Besides, the clitoris is placed
where any size can reach it. This is
because God in his infinite wisdom
designed the woman ’ s body in such a way
to get satisfaction and give it to any man
even if small sized.
Size is more psychological than biological .
It only becomes an issue if couples allow it
a place of pride in their relationships.
This is one issue that has continually come
up which despite all attempts at resolving,
keeps coming up .
In the first place, nobody can tell what the
ideal size of a woman ’ s breasts or male
organ should be , but a recent survey puts
the average size of an active male organ at
between 5. 5 to 6 . 3 inches. But the majority
falls between 4. 7 and 5 . 1 inches.
However, the secret to complete happiness
is for a man to be happy with what he has
because that is what makes him unique.
This is the point you must learn to accept
yourself . Yes, your wife has an opinion , but
you must make her understand that your
size has nothing to do with your ability to
satisfy her . If she loves you, she would not
leave you for another man no matter the
challenge with your size. What you both
need is a lot of imagination as well as the
openness to experiment without
reservations.
When it comes to the art of lovemaking ,
size and width do not matter as much as
the imagination of a couple . Some men are
excessively endowed, but find it extremely
difficult to get any woman to stay with them
because of the inability of most women to
accommodate them .
To get a woman to stay with them, such
men must learn, just like the less endowed
men, to rely more on their hands , tongues
and mouth to get the female going. These
are the art that makes one experience more
different from the other .
Because love within a marriage is meant to
be expressed beyond measure, a definite
gift from God, you and your wife must first
bury whatever prejudices you both grew up
with . To get to the kernel , lot of works ,
perseverance , interest as well as
determination must first be deployed
towards cracking the shell. The same
principle applies to the art of lovemaking,
especially where a couple hits a challenge
like yours.
You , being the one with the perceived
problem, must be willing to do everything
within limits to ensure your partner doesn ’ t
escape with the feeling of being cheated or
anger at being deceived by you into a union
she won ’ t get the maximum sexual
satisfaction from.
To this end, you must encourage her to
speak out her mind at every point , listen to
her suggestions on how to please her as
well as follow with a clear mind her
initiatives.
Like every other thing in life , lovemaking
isn ’ t static . It must be continually upgraded
and distilled to give a couple the right
blends . This means a couple must not only
strive to achieve excellence, but must do
everything to patent their own act to fit into
their uniqueness . For example , the
technique that works for your friend and his
partner may not work for you, because they
don’ t have the challenge you and your
partner have.
So , you must first evaluate not only the
urgent problems but all those that are
hidden as well . For instance the issue is not
only that of you not having the ideal length
of manhood ? Would having the ideal length
solve the problem of your lack of sexual
satisfaction once and for all ? Remember
that for most women , satisfaction and not
the size of the male organ is what matters
at the end of the day .
Make her talk and give her the concomitant
freedom to really express herself on the
matter. Don’ t shut her up, feel bad or get
suspicious when she is making her opinion
on the matter known. Although your wife ,
she is an adult with an adult mind and
desires hence must be given the same
recognition as you to be happy with the
choice she made to love you
unconditionally .
The danger of not involving her in your
quest for solutions is the possibility of
losing her completely to another man. This
is one salient fact you must not overlook.
She has the right to discontinue if she feels
she is not being given the right to her
desires . This is why you must enlist her
help . So , tell your wife to stop complaining
and think of productive ways of achieving
sexual satisfaction with you. Tell her she
has all the freedom in the world to use her
imagination to help both of you become
better lovers because you both are licensed
by God and man to tap into sex unlimited
nectar.
This is the only way to make her stop
complaining as well as secure her only
understanding and support to make her
happy . You have to break away from the
traditions that insist sexual satisfaction falls
under the exclusive male list . This is the
point man and the society creates problems
within the marriage institution . When there
is a sexual dissatisfaction within the
marriage framework, irrespective of who is
complaining, it behoves on the couple to
adopt a liberal and sincere attitude towards
its solution. Frankly , when it comes to the
delicate issue of sex, it is neither a man or
woman ’ s world. Rather, it is a world of
happiness and satisfaction.
What you should do is to look for quality
books that talk about positions and
postures couples seeking ultimate joy in
sex should adopt . There are some positions
that seem to give more volume to the male
organ . Google the Internet for information
on such books or ask your book retailer .
These books are not pornography materials,
rather they are well researched quality
books put together by highly educated
individuals who from years of researches
know that sex to man is as important as the
air we all breathe . Once man is able to
overcome the pretences and admit to the
essence of sex, solutions to sexual
challenges become very easy.
As for your second question, yes there are
ways to increase the size of a male organ ,
but some of them are dubious, which is why
it is very important a couple works at
finding its own rhythm , rather than
concentrating efforts on getting a solution
that might not be forthcoming or could lead
to more emotional and psychological
frustrations at the end of the day .
There are penile enhancement surgeries
where penis can be lengthened to more
than 10 inches . But the urgent question is :
How would you determine the depth of your
woman ’ s body? The average for a woman
is about four to eight inches , which means
your woman may not be able to
accommodate you if you are very huge. Do
you really want to get into measuring your
anatomy like a tailor measuring clothes ?
Would your wife in her quest to make you
have the right size allow her depth to be
measured so that you are done to fit her
perfectly ?
In addition , these operations cost real
money because they fall within the category
of plastic surgery . Do you have the money
and at the end of the day , would the fee
charged be worth the satisfaction?
There are also many herbal pills and
exercises that claim to increase size, but
you may have to go to NAFDAC to get the
list of such drugs cleared for human
consumption . It would be interesting to
know what animals these drugs , claiming
this magic were first tested on before
releasing them for human consumption .
Believe me, your imagination and
willingness to experiment is your best bet .
Don’ t forget that God that made both of you
an item has already known why and has
given both of you the individual as well as
collective strength to achieve the
impossible together. There is no subject or
problem He is ignorant of. Asking Him for
help and wisdom would also help you and
your wife greatly.
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Na by force
Nigerian man detained in mental institute
in Kano 'because he renounced Islam'
Mubarak Bala is allegedly being held
and forcibly medicated on the grounds of
a 'personality change' after declaring he
did not believe in God
Mubarak Bala from his bed in Aminu Kano
Teaching Hospital
By HEATHER SAUL
Wednesday 25 June 2014
A Nigerian man has been committed to a
mental institute in Kano state despite
being given a clean bill of health because
he declared he did not believe in God, a
humanist charity has said.
Mubarak Bala is being held against his will
and forcibly medicated at the Aminu Kano
Teaching Hospital, where he has been kept
since 13 June, the International Humanist
and Ethical Union (IHEU) reports.
The chemical engineering graduate is
allegedly being held on the grounds of a
“personality change” because he declared
himself an atheist despite being raised in a
Muslim family in Kano, which is a mainly
Muslim state.
The organisation says that when Mr Bala
told his family he did not believe in God,
they took him to a doctor and asked if he
was mentally ill.
When this doctor found him to be fit and
well, the family are then believed to have
taken him to a second doctor who claimed
he was suffering with a personality
disorder. The family allegedly told this
doctor he also made delusional claims that
he was a “governor” and other "trivial
lies".
The 29-year-old managed to raise the
alarm that he was being held in emails
and tweets sent to activists from a
smartphone smuggled into the facility and
the IHEU said a Lagos-based group has
asked a lawyer to take up his case.
In one of the emails, he wrote:“And the
biggest evidence of my mental illness was
large blasphemies and denial of ‘history’
of Adam, and apostasy, to which the
doctor said was a personality change, that
everyone needs a God, that even in Japan
they have a God.
Read more: Apostasy: What you need to
know
"And my brother added that all the
atheists I see have had mental illness at
some point in their life.”
The IHEU is "deeply concerned" about Mr
Bala's welfare and violations of his human
rights.
IHEU spokesman Bob Churchill said: “It
appears that a warped notion of family
honour is the motivation to pressure
Mubarak in this appalling manner, to
conform to religious views that he simply
doesn’t hold. This is an abhorrent violation
of his freedom of thought and belief.
“We are joining with humanists and
human rights advocates in Nigeria and the
activists who have worked to highlight this
case, in calling for an immediate re-
evaluation of Mubarak’s case by a doctor
who is entirely independent of the family,
and for his swift release.”
Sunday, June 22, 2014
hmmmmmm
David Cameron cancelled summer holiday
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
hmmmmmm
David Cameron cancelled summer holiday
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
hmmmmmm
David Cameron cancelled summer holiday
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
because he couldn't get any signal on his
phone
PM couldn't keep up to date with
fall of Gaddafi
David Cameron has said he had to cut
short holidays in Cornwall because of the
lack of mobile phone signal
David Cameron has revealed that he has
twice cut short family holidays to
Cornwall and rushed back to London –
because he was unable to get signal on his
mobile phone.
For many of us the chance to disconnect
is one of the biggest perks of a summer
getaway – but it seems it isn’t that simple
when you’re the Prime Minister and crises
erupt in the Middle East.
Bemoaning the woeful broadband speeds
and network coverage available in the
hills and B roads of the South West, Mr
Cameron admitted that there had been
times when it was so bad he had to give
up on his regular rural escape altogether.
Speaking in an interview marking the
Western Morning News’ first Sunday
edition today, the Prime Minister said that
for important calls to the likes of US
President Barack Obama he “know[s]
where to go to get signal”.
But when more volatile and long-running
conflicts have emerge in recent years, Mr
Cameron said, Cornish connectivity hasn’t
been enough for him to keep up.
In August last year he had to rush back
east to deal with the growing crisis in
Syria, and in 2011 a lack of signal
similarly prevented him from being
updated on the fall of colonel Muammar
Gaddafi in Libya.
He said poor technology “affects Prime
Ministers making important calls
wherever they are, but it affects
everybody”, and that so-called Broadband
“not-spots” are “a really big issue for
people all over the country”.
Mr Cameron’s Government has already
said it is investing up to £150 million to
improve mobile coverage in areas where
there is currently no coverage from any of
the mobile network operators.
David and Samantha Cameron on holiday in
Polzeath, Cornwall last summer
And ministers are discussing plans to
persuade mobile phone operators to help
increase coverage by sharing phone
masts, allowing for national roaming
across providers in the UK and addressing
the “not-spot” issue.
The Prime Minister said: “For rural
communities, not being connected to
super-fast broadband is a bit like not
being connected to the road network. It's
that bad.
“So much work is being done online that
it really is a 'must-have'. We've got to
crack this.”
Saturday, June 21, 2014
My wife is cheating on me with a vibrator
I have a very serious problem which has started
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
My wife is cheating on me with a vibrator
I have a very serious problem which has started
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
My wife is cheating on me with a vibrator
I have a very serious problem which has started
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
affecting me psychologically and even my
performance at my job.
I have tried to work things out with my wife but it
has not yielded any positive result as I am not
convinced about the situation. I feel too ashamed
to discuss the problem with my pastor and even
worse with my mother because I know that will
only escalate things. Trust me, I know my mother
and mothers generally. As for my friends, I am
afraid they might turn around to use it against us
and make me the butt of their jokes
My problem started last December, over the festive
period to be precise. I caught my wife on our
matrimonial bed having sex with a vibrator. I
almost collapsed because I was shocked beyond
what words can describe. I found myself shaking
from head to toe, unable to even say anything. I
felt so disgusted and sick that I had to rush to the
bathroom to splash water over my face to avoid
vomiting.
She must have been so engrossed in what she
was doing that she did not even know when I
entered our apartment and walked into the room to
find her in that position. It was my movement that
brought her back to reality.
What I found most disturbing at that moment was
why she could not wait for me if she was so in
need of sex, since I’d called her earlier on that I
was on my way home. And though she got up
immediately and started pleading with me that it
was the devil, I did not bring myself to talk to her
until very early in the morning of the next day.
She told me a friend in her office had given it to
her to try out and it was her first time of using it.
And that she would have told me about it but
wanted to try it out first. She mentioned
somebody’s name which she said I have never
met and pleaded that she would return it and never
use it again. She managed to convince me that it
was an innocent one-off-thing which I did not
need to bother myself about and I accepted.
But it was difficult for me to forget as I kept seeing
the picture of her in that position in my head and
wondering if it was right for a married, Christian
woman to be doing such a thing. To me, it is
something made by the Satan for his children.
Later that week, she told me she had returned it
and things went back to normal between us but I
was surprised to find the instrument again in her
underwear drawer by accident. She was not at
home, so I took it out and laid it on her side of the
bed. As soon as she saw it, she went on her knees
again and began to beg me.
She said she did not know how to return the thing
since it was a gift and would not want to upset her
colleague at the office, nor embarrass herself. She
insisted she was not using it and was also
scouting for whom she too can give it to.
Since I did not catch her using it, I had no choice
but to let it go. However, I was not comfortable
and began suspecting her. I later hatched a plan
to catch her and before long, it worked. What I saw
that evening was worse than the previous one and
still haunts me till today.
I’d never seen my wife look that way before even
when we are doing it. I was transfixed that I had to
hide quietly behind the door way to allow her
finish before I opened the door. Immediately my
wife went on her knees, begging that it was the
devil again.
I refused to talk to her and walked out of the
apartment. I just walked round and round the
neighbourhood because I felt lost and didn’t know
where to go or who to talk to. I felt thoroughly
betrayed. I had never looked at another woman in
my life, before and even after I met her. I’d never
looked at porn magazines or movie, not to talk of
having a girlfriend, and worse still, owning a sex
toy.
I could only manage to keep my anger for two
days as she kept crying and asking for
forgiveness, promising never to use it again. I
could not bear to see her that way too, so, I
insisted she had to tell me the truth.
She then told me that since the matter was no
longer a secret, it was better she confessed
everything to me. She said the vibrator was hers
and she had been using it even before she became
a born again Christian, as she was introduced to it
while in Secondary school. (A girls only school) I
don’t understand the logic, but she said it was a
way to show that they did not need male
company? Were they Lesbians?
She insisted they were not. When she became
“born again” in the university, she stopped, she
said. This was where we met and started first as
friends, then I got the message that she was my
wife and we eventually got married two years after
our service year. She said she was forced to go
and buy another vibrator after a discussion with
some ladies in her office about how much they
enjoyed their sex life and she missed the fun she
used to have. She also told me that she does not
get satisfaction from what we do together but did
not want to hurt my feelings by telling me and
begged me to allow her to continue using the thing
and that it will not affect what we have together,
after all, I never would have guessed it, if I had not
caught her using it.
My problem now is that, though I have not caught
her again in almost two months, I am still not
happy because I know she is doing it and its
disgusting to me. Though she says it will not affect
us, it is already affecting me because anytime I
want to have sex with her, that picture comes to
my mind and spoils my mood. I will have to just
force myself because I have nowhere else to
relieve myself.
My work schedule is very tight as I work in the
bank and have to leave home very early in the
morning and most times, don’t return home until
around 10pm or even later. I am also taking some
professional courses, so, that also takes away
most of my weekends. But my wife is a teacher, so
she has more than enough time on her hands to
do all she wants before I return.
Before you ask what I have done to make our love
life better, I have tried to do everything she tells
me, and though she says she is now enjoying it, I
am not convinced. I do not see that look on her
face. And it is making me feel inadequate as a
husband. We have been married for three years
and we are yet to conceive a child and I
sometimes wonder if this is her priority. I know
what I am facing with my mother and family on
that issue alone, not to now add this one to it.
Have I not bitten more than I can chew with this
girl? My wife is unfaithful to me and I am
powerless to do anything about it.
Monday, June 16, 2014
Washing raw chicken can lead to food poisoning
Washing raw chicken before it is cooked
may cause food poisoning, health experts
have warned.
More than two-fifths of people wash
chicken when they prepare food, but the
Food Standards Agency (FSA) has advised
that the practice can spread bacteria on to
hands, work surfaces, clothing and
cooking equipment through splashed
water.
Food poisoning is most commonly caused
by the campylobacter bacteria, and affects
more than 280,000 people in the UK each
year.
Four out of every five cases are caused by
contaminated chicken, according to the
FSA - the independent government
department responsible for food safety
and hygiene in the UK.
While most people suffer relatively
manageable symptoms including
abdominal pain, severe diarrhoea and
vomiting, food poisoning can sometimes
lead to more significant health problems.
Play
“Although people tend to follow
recommended practice when handling
poultry, such as washing hands after
touching raw chicken and making sure it
is thoroughly cooked, our research has
found that washing raw chicken is also
common practice,” said FSA chief
executive Catherine Brown.
She added that Campylobacter "is a
serious issue."
"Not only can it cause severe illness and
death, but it costs the economy hundreds
of millions of pounds a year as a result of
sickness absence and the burden on the
NHS.
"We are leading a campaign that brings
together the whole food chain, which
includes working with farmers and
producers to reduce rates of
campylobacter in flocks of broiler
chickens and ensuring that
slaughterhouses and processors are taking steps to minimise the level of bacteria in raw chicken she said
Washing raw chicken can lead to food poisoning
Washing raw chicken before it is cooked
may cause food poisoning, health experts
have warned.
More than two-fifths of people wash
chicken when they prepare food, but the
Food Standards Agency (FSA) has advised
that the practice can spread bacteria on to
hands, work surfaces, clothing and
cooking equipment through splashed
water.
Food poisoning is most commonly caused
by the campylobacter bacteria, and affects
more than 280,000 people in the UK each
year.
Four out of every five cases are caused by
contaminated chicken, according to the
FSA - the independent government
department responsible for food safety
and hygiene in the UK.
While most people suffer relatively
manageable symptoms including
abdominal pain, severe diarrhoea and
vomiting, food poisoning can sometimes
lead to more significant health problems.
Play
“Although people tend to follow
recommended practice when handling
poultry, such as washing hands after
touching raw chicken and making sure it
is thoroughly cooked, our research has
found that washing raw chicken is also
common practice,” said FSA chief
executive Catherine Brown.
She added that Campylobacter "is a
serious issue."
"Not only can it cause severe illness and
death, but it costs the economy hundreds
of millions of pounds a year as a result of
sickness absence and the burden on the
NHS.
"We are leading a campaign that brings
together the whole food chain, which
includes working with farmers and
producers to reduce rates of
campylobacter in flocks of broiler
chickens and ensuring that
slaughterhouses and processors are taking steps to minimise the level of bacteria in raw chicken she said
Sunday, June 15, 2014
How sex could wipe out malaria
Scientists think they have figured out a way to
wipe out mosquitoes that transmit malaria, a
horrible disease that kills a million humans every
year.
Based on laboratory experiments, they think they
can do it by messing up the sex life of Anopheles
gambiae, the mosquito that sucks blood out of
other animals, including humans, that carries the
parasite that causes a disease for which there is
no vaccine.
It has been estimated that a child dies every 30
seconds in sub-Sahara Africa from malaria, so if
the lab results also work in the real world then this
could be the turning point in an effort that has
frustrated medical researchers for many decades.
That's a big "if," but scientists at Imperial College
London, who have spent years working on this
problem, think they are finally on the right track.
Their "breakthrough," as other scientists have
called it, works by genetically engineering
mosquitoes to produce offspring that are
exclusively male at least 95 percent of the time.
With fewer and fewer females in each succeeding
generation, the technique wiped out the entire
population of caged wild mosquitoes within six
generations, according to a study published in
Nature Communications.
The scientists transferred a gene from slime mold
that produces an enzyme that chops up DNA when
it finds a specific sequence. In this case it latched
on to a section of the x chromosome which
determines gender during the period when the
male mosquito was producing sperm. Thus nearly
all the offspring were males.
"We think our innovative approach is a huge step
forward," lead researcher Andrea Crisanti said in
releasing the report. "For the very first time, we
have been able to inhibit the production of female
offspring in the laboratory and this provides a new
means to eliminate the disease."
The technique could pay off immediately in that
only females bite humans, because they need the
nutrients in blood to produce healthy eggs, so
fewer females would mean fewer bites.
That sounds like good news for the entire world,
since mosquito bites are irritating and dangerous.
Mosquitoes transmit several diseases, not just
malaria, including West Nile Virus and yellow fever,
which devastated New Orleans in 1905.
Unfortunately, even if this works in the wild, it will
work only on Anopheles gambiae, one of at least
3,000 species of this nasty insect, so don't throw
away your DEET yet. But it could point the way to
other genetic avenues that would work with other
species.
However, this would be a new chapter, and
perhaps a dangerous one, in the ongoing human
effort to change the natural world through genetic
engineering to solve a problem that is faced by
one species, ourselves. And it is possible that
once experiments begin in the wild, an entire
species could be wiped out through genetic
engineering, a threat that troubles many critics.
On the surface, this would appear to be a slam
dunk. Why would anyone object to sacrificing
mosquitoes to save the lives of millions of
children?
The mosquito has been described as the deadliest
animal on the entire planet, and it's safe to say
that nearly all humans detest these little beasts,
but wiping out an entire species is something that
should require a lot of thought and discussion.
Even if the victim is a just a mosquito. Everyone
hates mosquitoes. The female attacks with a
vengeance, drawing blood and leaving a blister-
like wound.
But is it worth it to wipe out an entire species of
another living creature just to serve the needs of a
single species, ourselves? My guess is nearly
everyone would answer that in the affirmative, but
this is a bridge that doesn't lead to nowhere.
We've never experimented on that scale before,
and if this works it will surely lead to wider genetic
engineering in the animal world.
Even Crisanti described this as a "quantum leap in
terms of what has been done before."
Yet even though the stakes here are high, it's hard
not to get excited about this potential
breakthrough.
The only other progress in fighting malaria has
involved hanging insecticide-treated nets over the
beds of children and pregnant women, and that
has reduced malaria by an estimated 50 percent.
Drying out muddy ponds where mosquitoes lay
their eggs also has helped. But that still leaves a
lot of room for human suffering, and the nets only
last for a few years.
The mosquito is not likely to easily give up its
preference for human blood. As anyone who lives
in a damp area knows, it can smell human breath
75 feet away and travel a couple of miles per day,
beating its wings 300 to 600 times per second. It
seems ideally equipped to torment humans.
And it is equally successful at developing
immunity from the scores of insecticides that have
been produced over the years.
That raises another question. If it has been so
successful in the past, can it out-engineer the
engineers and defeat human efforts to mess up its
sex life? (Scientists call it a "sex ratio distortion
system.")
Maybe. We won't know for at least two years when
this project is expected to move from the lab to
the real world.
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wipe out mosquitoes that transmit malaria, a
horrible disease that kills a million humans every
year.
Based on laboratory experiments, they think they
can do it by messing up the sex life of Anopheles
gambiae, the mosquito that sucks blood out of
other animals, including humans, that carries the
parasite that causes a disease for which there is
no vaccine.
It has been estimated that a child dies every 30
seconds in sub-Sahara Africa from malaria, so if
the lab results also work in the real world then this
could be the turning point in an effort that has
frustrated medical researchers for many decades.
That's a big "if," but scientists at Imperial College
London, who have spent years working on this
problem, think they are finally on the right track.
Their "breakthrough," as other scientists have
called it, works by genetically engineering
mosquitoes to produce offspring that are
exclusively male at least 95 percent of the time.
With fewer and fewer females in each succeeding
generation, the technique wiped out the entire
population of caged wild mosquitoes within six
generations, according to a study published in
Nature Communications.
The scientists transferred a gene from slime mold
that produces an enzyme that chops up DNA when
it finds a specific sequence. In this case it latched
on to a section of the x chromosome which
determines gender during the period when the
male mosquito was producing sperm. Thus nearly
all the offspring were males.
"We think our innovative approach is a huge step
forward," lead researcher Andrea Crisanti said in
releasing the report. "For the very first time, we
have been able to inhibit the production of female
offspring in the laboratory and this provides a new
means to eliminate the disease."
The technique could pay off immediately in that
only females bite humans, because they need the
nutrients in blood to produce healthy eggs, so
fewer females would mean fewer bites.
That sounds like good news for the entire world,
since mosquito bites are irritating and dangerous.
Mosquitoes transmit several diseases, not just
malaria, including West Nile Virus and yellow fever,
which devastated New Orleans in 1905.
Unfortunately, even if this works in the wild, it will
work only on Anopheles gambiae, one of at least
3,000 species of this nasty insect, so don't throw
away your DEET yet. But it could point the way to
other genetic avenues that would work with other
species.
However, this would be a new chapter, and
perhaps a dangerous one, in the ongoing human
effort to change the natural world through genetic
engineering to solve a problem that is faced by
one species, ourselves. And it is possible that
once experiments begin in the wild, an entire
species could be wiped out through genetic
engineering, a threat that troubles many critics.
On the surface, this would appear to be a slam
dunk. Why would anyone object to sacrificing
mosquitoes to save the lives of millions of
children?
The mosquito has been described as the deadliest
animal on the entire planet, and it's safe to say
that nearly all humans detest these little beasts,
but wiping out an entire species is something that
should require a lot of thought and discussion.
Even if the victim is a just a mosquito. Everyone
hates mosquitoes. The female attacks with a
vengeance, drawing blood and leaving a blister-
like wound.
But is it worth it to wipe out an entire species of
another living creature just to serve the needs of a
single species, ourselves? My guess is nearly
everyone would answer that in the affirmative, but
this is a bridge that doesn't lead to nowhere.
We've never experimented on that scale before,
and if this works it will surely lead to wider genetic
engineering in the animal world.
Even Crisanti described this as a "quantum leap in
terms of what has been done before."
Yet even though the stakes here are high, it's hard
not to get excited about this potential
breakthrough.
The only other progress in fighting malaria has
involved hanging insecticide-treated nets over the
beds of children and pregnant women, and that
has reduced malaria by an estimated 50 percent.
Drying out muddy ponds where mosquitoes lay
their eggs also has helped. But that still leaves a
lot of room for human suffering, and the nets only
last for a few years.
The mosquito is not likely to easily give up its
preference for human blood. As anyone who lives
in a damp area knows, it can smell human breath
75 feet away and travel a couple of miles per day,
beating its wings 300 to 600 times per second. It
seems ideally equipped to torment humans.
And it is equally successful at developing
immunity from the scores of insecticides that have
been produced over the years.
That raises another question. If it has been so
successful in the past, can it out-engineer the
engineers and defeat human efforts to mess up its
sex life? (Scientists call it a "sex ratio distortion
system.")
Maybe. We won't know for at least two years when
this project is expected to move from the lab to
the real world.
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How sex could wipe out malaria
Scientists think they have figured out a way to
wipe out mosquitoes that transmit malaria, a
horrible disease that kills a million humans every
year.
Based on laboratory experiments, they think they
can do it by messing up the sex life of Anopheles
gambiae, the mosquito that sucks blood out of
other animals, including humans, that carries the
parasite that causes a disease for which there is
no vaccine.
It has been estimated that a child dies every 30
seconds in sub-Sahara Africa from malaria, so if
the lab results also work in the real world then this
could be the turning point in an effort that has
frustrated medical researchers for many decades.
That's a big "if," but scientists at Imperial College
London, who have spent years working on this
problem, think they are finally on the right track.
Their "breakthrough," as other scientists have
called it, works by genetically engineering
mosquitoes to produce offspring that are
exclusively male at least 95 percent of the time.
With fewer and fewer females in each succeeding
generation, the technique wiped out the entire
population of caged wild mosquitoes within six
generations, according to a study published in
Nature Communications.
The scientists transferred a gene from slime mold
that produces an enzyme that chops up DNA when
it finds a specific sequence. In this case it latched
on to a section of the x chromosome which
determines gender during the period when the
male mosquito was producing sperm. Thus nearly
all the offspring were males.
"We think our innovative approach is a huge step
forward," lead researcher Andrea Crisanti said in
releasing the report. "For the very first time, we
have been able to inhibit the production of female
offspring in the laboratory and this provides a new
means to eliminate the disease."
The technique could pay off immediately in that
only females bite humans, because they need the
nutrients in blood to produce healthy eggs, so
fewer females would mean fewer bites.
That sounds like good news for the entire world,
since mosquito bites are irritating and dangerous.
Mosquitoes transmit several diseases, not just
malaria, including West Nile Virus and yellow fever,
which devastated New Orleans in 1905.
Unfortunately, even if this works in the wild, it will
work only on Anopheles gambiae, one of at least
3,000 species of this nasty insect, so don't throw
away your DEET yet. But it could point the way to
other genetic avenues that would work with other
species.
However, this would be a new chapter, and
perhaps a dangerous one, in the ongoing human
effort to change the natural world through genetic
engineering to solve a problem that is faced by
one species, ourselves. And it is possible that
once experiments begin in the wild, an entire
species could be wiped out through genetic
engineering, a threat that troubles many critics.
On the surface, this would appear to be a slam
dunk. Why would anyone object to sacrificing
mosquitoes to save the lives of millions of
children?
The mosquito has been described as the deadliest
animal on the entire planet, and it's safe to say
that nearly all humans detest these little beasts,
but wiping out an entire species is something that
should require a lot of thought and discussion.
Even if the victim is a just a mosquito. Everyone
hates mosquitoes. The female attacks with a
vengeance, drawing blood and leaving a blister-
like wound.
But is it worth it to wipe out an entire species of
another living creature just to serve the needs of a
single species, ourselves? My guess is nearly
everyone would answer that in the affirmative, but
this is a bridge that doesn't lead to nowhere.
We've never experimented on that scale before,
and if this works it will surely lead to wider genetic
engineering in the animal world.
Even Crisanti described this as a "quantum leap in
terms of what has been done before."
Yet even though the stakes here are high, it's hard
not to get excited about this potential
breakthrough.
The only other progress in fighting malaria has
involved hanging insecticide-treated nets over the
beds of children and pregnant women, and that
has reduced malaria by an estimated 50 percent.
Drying out muddy ponds where mosquitoes lay
their eggs also has helped. But that still leaves a
lot of room for human suffering, and the nets only
last for a few years.
The mosquito is not likely to easily give up its
preference for human blood. As anyone who lives
in a damp area knows, it can smell human breath
75 feet away and travel a couple of miles per day,
beating its wings 300 to 600 times per second. It
seems ideally equipped to torment humans.
And it is equally successful at developing
immunity from the scores of insecticides that have
been produced over the years.
That raises another question. If it has been so
successful in the past, can it out-engineer the
engineers and defeat human efforts to mess up its
sex life? (Scientists call it a "sex ratio distortion
system.")
Maybe. We won't know for at least two years when
this project is expected to move from the lab to
the real world.
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wipe out mosquitoes that transmit malaria, a
horrible disease that kills a million humans every
year.
Based on laboratory experiments, they think they
can do it by messing up the sex life of Anopheles
gambiae, the mosquito that sucks blood out of
other animals, including humans, that carries the
parasite that causes a disease for which there is
no vaccine.
It has been estimated that a child dies every 30
seconds in sub-Sahara Africa from malaria, so if
the lab results also work in the real world then this
could be the turning point in an effort that has
frustrated medical researchers for many decades.
That's a big "if," but scientists at Imperial College
London, who have spent years working on this
problem, think they are finally on the right track.
Their "breakthrough," as other scientists have
called it, works by genetically engineering
mosquitoes to produce offspring that are
exclusively male at least 95 percent of the time.
With fewer and fewer females in each succeeding
generation, the technique wiped out the entire
population of caged wild mosquitoes within six
generations, according to a study published in
Nature Communications.
The scientists transferred a gene from slime mold
that produces an enzyme that chops up DNA when
it finds a specific sequence. In this case it latched
on to a section of the x chromosome which
determines gender during the period when the
male mosquito was producing sperm. Thus nearly
all the offspring were males.
"We think our innovative approach is a huge step
forward," lead researcher Andrea Crisanti said in
releasing the report. "For the very first time, we
have been able to inhibit the production of female
offspring in the laboratory and this provides a new
means to eliminate the disease."
The technique could pay off immediately in that
only females bite humans, because they need the
nutrients in blood to produce healthy eggs, so
fewer females would mean fewer bites.
That sounds like good news for the entire world,
since mosquito bites are irritating and dangerous.
Mosquitoes transmit several diseases, not just
malaria, including West Nile Virus and yellow fever,
which devastated New Orleans in 1905.
Unfortunately, even if this works in the wild, it will
work only on Anopheles gambiae, one of at least
3,000 species of this nasty insect, so don't throw
away your DEET yet. But it could point the way to
other genetic avenues that would work with other
species.
However, this would be a new chapter, and
perhaps a dangerous one, in the ongoing human
effort to change the natural world through genetic
engineering to solve a problem that is faced by
one species, ourselves. And it is possible that
once experiments begin in the wild, an entire
species could be wiped out through genetic
engineering, a threat that troubles many critics.
On the surface, this would appear to be a slam
dunk. Why would anyone object to sacrificing
mosquitoes to save the lives of millions of
children?
The mosquito has been described as the deadliest
animal on the entire planet, and it's safe to say
that nearly all humans detest these little beasts,
but wiping out an entire species is something that
should require a lot of thought and discussion.
Even if the victim is a just a mosquito. Everyone
hates mosquitoes. The female attacks with a
vengeance, drawing blood and leaving a blister-
like wound.
But is it worth it to wipe out an entire species of
another living creature just to serve the needs of a
single species, ourselves? My guess is nearly
everyone would answer that in the affirmative, but
this is a bridge that doesn't lead to nowhere.
We've never experimented on that scale before,
and if this works it will surely lead to wider genetic
engineering in the animal world.
Even Crisanti described this as a "quantum leap in
terms of what has been done before."
Yet even though the stakes here are high, it's hard
not to get excited about this potential
breakthrough.
The only other progress in fighting malaria has
involved hanging insecticide-treated nets over the
beds of children and pregnant women, and that
has reduced malaria by an estimated 50 percent.
Drying out muddy ponds where mosquitoes lay
their eggs also has helped. But that still leaves a
lot of room for human suffering, and the nets only
last for a few years.
The mosquito is not likely to easily give up its
preference for human blood. As anyone who lives
in a damp area knows, it can smell human breath
75 feet away and travel a couple of miles per day,
beating its wings 300 to 600 times per second. It
seems ideally equipped to torment humans.
And it is equally successful at developing
immunity from the scores of insecticides that have
been produced over the years.
That raises another question. If it has been so
successful in the past, can it out-engineer the
engineers and defeat human efforts to mess up its
sex life? (Scientists call it a "sex ratio distortion
system.")
Maybe. We won't know for at least two years when
this project is expected to move from the lab to
the real world.
FROM AROUND THE WEB
30 Photos That Explain Why Kanye West Married
Kim Kardashian [Photos] (HipHopWired)
Famous Couples Who Are Never Getting Married
(Madame Noire)
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(Madame Noire)
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(Madame Noire)
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