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Woman To Woman - A Must Read
If I didn't know for myself that there are decent
Nigerian men who
- are kind
- don't cheat
- drink Panadol for your headache
- don't abuse you and/or your mind, in the name
of 'men will be men'
- will do anything to make you feel safe and
secure
NOTHING and NOBODY (not even God) would
convince me to look at a Nigerian man, even
once. Because many Facebook "Christian
women's groups" have done a marvellous job of
painting ALL Nigerian men, as unadulterated evil.
I have come to the conclusion that the typical
Nigerian female ENJOYS praying. Especially
useless prayers that God cannot hear. You enable
terrible behaviour, and teach your sons the
same.
A man is cheating on you, has infected you with
an STI more than once - your "Christian sisthren"
tell you to keep sleeping with him to save your
marriage, and you're following demonic advice. If
you stop sleeping with him, what is the worst that
can happen? He will 'go outside'? But he is
already going outside - which is how you came to
have the STI in the first place.
A man is beating you, you bring it to a "Christian
women forum" - they tell you to be submissive,
and pray for him. Even when you say he has
landed you in hospital, twice. They tell you to
stay for your children, and not to allow another
woman come and take your home. Let another
woman come - when he beats her too, her eyes
will clear. As for your children, do you honestly
think that there is any normal child that likes
seeing their mother being beaten? When the man
finally kills you, how many of those "Christian
sisthren" will even show up at your funeral, never
mind taking care of your children? No, your
"fellowship sistaaas" tell you that "Our God is a
great God, and will not allow you to die."
Your husband isn't satisfying you in the bedroom.
Your "Christian sisthren" tell you, "Ah! Are you
possessed? Is it food? Or do you have 'spirit
husband'? Well, it's because you don't have work.
You have too much time on your hands. Train
your children and forget about such things!" Bear
in mind that if it was the man complaining, those
some women will say "Ah! You must learn how to
dress like a stripper in the bedroom and give it to
him like a whore in the living room; or he will go
outside, and it will be your fault."
Your husband cooks food that he too will eat -
they react like you put him under a spell. It
makes you shudder at the thought of what they
must be going through in the name of 'marriage'.
It is Nigerian women who are spawning beasts,
and saying they are raising 'men that will always
be men'.
Your son gets into an argument with his sister;
you tell him "Men don't apologise" - then he gets
surprised tomorrow when he meets a woman who
refuses to take that kind of sh*t from him.
Your teenage son impregnates a girl, you shield
him, abuse the girl, and send your precious son
abroad. Maybe there are no girls abroad, to 'tempt
your cherubic son'. If you did what you were
supposed to do, wouldn't your son be able to
resist 'temptation'? Then tomorrow when your son
has an accident that renders him impotent, you
remember he has a child somewhere - the child
you denied, because you said the mother was a
prostitute who was trying to blame your innocent
son for what he knew nothing about. You then
enlist an entire village to help you beg the girl,
who had to stop school in order to play the roles
of father and mother, when the father of that child
was alive and well. You even have the nerve to
take the girl's name to your coven of witches
(sorry, fellow Christian sisters) to say "God should
turn her heart, because she is preventing my son
from having access to his only child."
You mollycoddle a male child into a state of
near-irredeemable uselessness, and say you have
raised a man. You expect another woman to take
over from where you stopped, to manage a stupid
man-child whose mother failed to raise him right.
When she indicates that her own mother didn't
raise a fool with 'slave complex', you start
whining about "women liberation" and how she
does not love your son. Well, only a mother can
love certain kinds of 'men'. Let me tell you - it is
because of your categorical WOEFUL FAILURE as a
mother, that women feel the need to be liberated.
Not everyone feels 'called to a life of never-ending
prayer'.
Not everyone buys the patriarchal, misogynistic
BS of "you are nothing without a man, even if it is
a mad man".
DO your job well. The women who raised REAL,
GOOD MEN do not have two heads.
In this day and age, only real men are needed.
When a woman says she needs a man, she is
NOT referring to a "damaged bird with broken
wings"
*written by Chichi Nnani