How to Overcome Bad Mental Hygiene
Bad mental hygiene creates bad mental habits that must be overcome because they are unnecessary. You can develop good mental habits and avoid the bad ones. Well, it's not so easy but you can kick out craziness from your house and from your mind... Okay, anyway you can avoid "accepting" useless mental patterns and practice thinking right..., but what does that mean and how?
- 1Correct the stressful events in a productive manner, if possible. If one can truly let go, overcome and ignore the problem, then that's fine.
- 2Don't entertain bad thoughts. If you find yourself getting agitated about something, begin to say: "It doesn't matter anymore. I will think about something else..."--and then read something, write a note or a letter. Watch a show on TV into which you can really get involved. Refuse to allow your speech or thinking to be negative and refuse to be taken over by anxiety or anger in your thoughts.
- Reject that thought. You can actually say that to yourself: "I reject that fretful or angry thought!" You can even say "Stop it!" to yourself.
- Command yourself silently to be quiet.When you find yourself talking too much, or thinking and even planning to say things that you will regret later, tell yourself mentally: "Just shut up." Then do something to occupy your mind--and so you will actually change you thoughts to something else.
- Command yourself silently to be quiet.When you find yourself talking too much, or thinking and even planning to say things that you will regret later, tell yourself mentally: "Just shut up." Then do something to occupy your mind--and so you will actually change you thoughts to something else.
- Reject that thought. You can actually say that to yourself: "I reject that fretful or angry thought!" You can even say "Stop it!" to yourself.
- 3Accept your circumstancesand yourself, and so don't hate yourself, but then say, "I can and will improve!!!"
- 4Become less flustered by minor events, fear, or disruptions, and then eventually you can handle major problems as well; so hold your head up, try to smile and soon you will not be as upset. Even if you are it doesn't have to be obvious.
- 5Let your anger out. Sublimate: So that you relieve and not let stress build up. Jog, sing, practice piano or karate. Take a course.
- Blow off steam, or stress, in an acceptable manner that does not harm anyone.
- Blow off steam, or stress, in an acceptable manner that does not harm anyone.
- 6Expect your mind and mental habits to improve. The mind will attempt to come up to expectations. So expect good things in your mind and in your life, and expect some more progress of yourself. Don't wait, or you may let it slide away.
- Make proactive efforts to follow through on your ideas, make and keep promises and follow kind and good plans. Put your feet under your purposes. Walk in the path. Say, "Hi!" Dial the phone. Write a "Thank You!" Work out problems and differences little by little; it doesn't have to be big changes--it's not all or nothing. Forget all or nothing; just remember to keep your efforts active and see it work out: step by step!
- Make proactive efforts to follow through on your ideas, make and keep promises and follow kind and good plans. Put your feet under your purposes. Walk in the path. Say, "Hi!" Dial the phone. Write a "Thank You!" Work out problems and differences little by little; it doesn't have to be big changes--it's not all or nothing. Forget all or nothing; just remember to keep your efforts active and see it work out: step by step!
- 7Don't be hateful to your "friend/enemy" which means: be kind! Getting your revenge interferes with your developing peace of mind--using force or getting into fights will not change anger to peace of mind! But, do not try to change other people except by being kind and thoughtful--regardless of what they may say or seem to think! Let them see that you are stable and full of kindness; so do not throw up your hands or slam doors or shout...
- Avoid blaming or saying that others cause your problems but rather take responsibility for anything that you could have handled in a better way. Then set out to handle the present situation better.
- Avoid being negative or a "downer": stop thinking and talking doom, despair and agony on yourself, but help paranoid people, or you stopbeing paranoid yourself as much as possible, and stop laughing off paranoia.
- Avoid blaming or saying that others cause your problems but rather take responsibility for anything that you could have handled in a better way. Then set out to handle the present situation better.
- 8Examine "hearing" of second thoughts for validity. Realize that if you "think up" and "clear up" what you heard--then you may not have heard it, as such. Avoid saying or thinking "I saw that look..." or "I heard that..." These kinds of accusations lend themselves to malicious misjudgment (or common paranoia), and so you should doubt your negative interpretations of what you "heard" or "saw."
- Stop believing that you occasionally have oddly-clear hearing whether in positive euphoria or negative dysphoria (If only a few words are so clear, then it very well may be your imagination. If you hear whole paragraphs clearly from a distance, then it is very likely your imagination trying to make sense of your good or bad feelings). Avoid accepting "your little bird" (as in a little bird told me...) telling you that you have it all figured out. Realize that you need to change. Make positive efforts to achievebetter goals.
- Keep in mind that accusations and self-aggrandizing ego cause other people to feel badly. Whether it is proved or not -- or was just idle chatter!
- Keep in mind that accusations and self-aggrandizing ego cause other people to feel badly. Whether it is proved or not -- or was just idle chatter!
- Stop believing that you occasionally have oddly-clear hearing whether in positive euphoria or negative dysphoria (If only a few words are so clear, then it very well may be your imagination. If you hear whole paragraphs clearly from a distance, then it is very likely your imagination trying to make sense of your good or bad feelings). Avoid accepting "your little bird" (as in a little bird told me...) telling you that you have it all figured out. Realize that you need to change. Make positive efforts to achievebetter goals.
- 9Be fair and impartial in both your abstract and concreteinterpretations of passing moods, expressions or subtle actions of others whom you do not trust--or whom you may wish to control (without rights to do so).
- Don't wrongly judge people on shallow or prejudicial bases. There is a danger of falsely accusing one who is innocent, but is a disfavored persona non grata to whom one may apply perceptions that are based on hearsay or personal bias as against a personally unacceptable orunwelcome individual. "Judge not so that in turn you will not be judged..."
- Don't wrongly judge people on shallow or prejudicial bases. There is a danger of falsely accusing one who is innocent, but is a disfavored persona non grata to whom one may apply perceptions that are based on hearsay or personal bias as against a personally unacceptable orunwelcome individual. "Judge not so that in turn you will not be judged..."
- 10Stay on the subject--or get back on topic. Discipline yourself to be "on point" and narrow your subject to be realistic; not too idealistic and don't be at all fatalistic! Avoid disorganized thinking by keeping your thoughts and speech from meandering or rambling.
- 11Don't allow yourself to make faces, to frown or grimace at people--or even go into a flat mood, as if you are so tired. So try to relax more often;smile more even when you don't feel much like it.
- Avoid untimely laughing and "cursing" for no real reason or publicly talking to yourself--or uncommunicative mutteringsor giggling by yourself in public--but if you should do so, then casually see whether anyone is watching or paying attention to you and say, ""Pardon me! I just thought of something..." and chuckle a little, but don't bother to tell it or explain it!
- Realize that you may be able to assume yourattitude and control your view point and the outlookwhich makes a real difference and that sarcastic frowning, cynical pronouncements and fatalistic declarations are "bad mental hygiene" and is a kind of "craziness," which is self-defeating and is a bad mental habit--so brighten your outlook and so lighten your load.
- Avoid untimely laughing and "cursing" for no real reason or publicly talking to yourself--or uncommunicative mutteringsor giggling by yourself in public--but if you should do so, then casually see whether anyone is watching or paying attention to you and say, ""Pardon me! I just thought of something..." and chuckle a little, but don't bother to tell it or explain it!
- 12Develop good habits by being outgoing and not so much re-active as directly involved to achieve something and stay engaged.
- Give a little of your time and, perhaps, some funds to help the more needy of people that would use and seem to desire help; this will help your mental habits to be positive, and your self-fulfilling good purposes can become a new way--new good habits!
- Give a little of your time and, perhaps, some funds to help the more needy of people that would use and seem to desire help; this will help your mental habits to be positive, and your self-fulfilling good purposes can become a new way--new good habits!
- 13Don't hold grudges. Develop your "new self image" without those grudges. If you find yourself remembering an oldmeanness someone did or said. Just go to other thoughts: think about a new thought. More about that follows...
- 14Don't be set in your ways: "That was then--and this is now." Which means "I can go on to something new, and I don't need to even think about that anymore."
- Don't hold on to junk in your mind! Dump the "junk" out of your conscious thoughts. Cleanse your mind; don't be double minded... Do not waiver or wanderer from your decided goal. How? Read on:
- Don't say I can't forgive. Say "I will forgive that." or "I will not hold onto that old anger anymore." Try to forgive old wrongs quickly by saying "I do forgive that!"
- Declare, "I will not only forgive, but I will forgetthat!" Believe that you can overcome negative thinking, and then go on as if you do forget it. If it comes to mind say, "Oh well, it doesn't matter anymore!" You'll start to believe it. Forgive "without" forgetting... or,forgive "and" forget.
- Don't say I can't forgive. Say "I will forgive that." or "I will not hold onto that old anger anymore." Try to forgive old wrongs quickly by saying "I do forgive that!"
- Don't hold on to junk in your mind! Dump the "junk" out of your conscious thoughts. Cleanse your mind; don't be double minded... Do not waiver or wanderer from your decided goal. How? Read on:
- 15Think it through, and keep your plan--not just one day at a time, but one hour at a time! Just start over when you mess-up.
Like a diet or an education; you may see very little change in a day or even a year; so keep on doing the re-training yourself for the rest of your life.
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