Inaccurate Gene type Result... Is a s source of pains for millions

Inaccurate Genotype Result,
Cause Of My Ordeal
The pain and helplessness of taking care
of a perpetually sick child has made
genotype tests compulsory for intending
couples in some religious groups. This is
to avert giving birth to children that will
not only come to suffer but also be a
source of heartache to their parents and
loved ones. But what happens when a
renowned hospital makes a mistake that
becomes the cause of such an ordeal?
ZION ZADOK, Abuja, writes
Edward Kanu, an Abuja-based business
man related his ordeal to LEADERSHIP
Sunday on how he was given the wrong
genotype result by a renowned hospital in,
Abuja which led to the birth of his son who
suffers from sickle cell disease.
Mr Kanu said he returned to Nigeria from
Europe where he had lived for about five
years in 2006 with the intention of getting
married.
He said three months into their
relationship, his fiancée then who is a
nurse, insisted he must produce his
genotype results before they proceeded
with their marriage plans because she is
AS, a carrier of sickle cell and so wanted
to be sure he is not a carrier and avoid
giving birth to a child with sickle cell
anaemia.
He said he went to the hospital laboratory,
paid N300 for the genotype test and his
blood sample was collected; the test was
run on him and after about 20-25 minutes,
the result came out and the laboratory
gave Kanu his HB report: AA.
He said with that result, there was no
other obstacle to their getting married and
so they went ahead with the wedding.
Mr Kanu said he was happy to take home
his wife and they lived happily for nine
months but trouble started when she gave
birth to their first child and discovered that
the baby has sickle cell disease. At first,
they doubted the possibility given that his
genotype is AA even though his wife’s is
AS. So, at that point, they were asked to
go for a second test and when it was
conducted, the result showed that he did
not only have AS genotype but was also a
carrier of sickle cell gene like his wife. The
second test was conducted first at a
Military Hospital in Yaba-Lagos which has
good test equipment. From there, he went
to Echo Scan and finally, National Hospital,
both in Abuja and all the results showed
AS.
At that point, he discovered that he had
been given a wrong genotype result by the
general hospital where he first conducted
the test shortly before his wedding.
To seek redress, Mr Kanu filed a N300
million suit against the hospital in 2007 for
the emotional trauma the hospital’s
incompetency, inaccuracy, human error
and inefficient machines have caused him.
Kanu lost the first case at Abuja High Court
II as the court dismissed the case, saying
it was too late to sue. The presiding Judge
ruled that the time limit on genotype
issues is three months whereas it takes at
least about nine months after the
consummation of a marriage to determine
the birth of a child and even at that, the
child was not diagnosed with SS on the
day he was born and so the three months
provision by the court is not realistic in
this case.
Following the ruling of the previous court,
Mr Edwards Kanu appealed against the
case at the Appeal Court also in Abuja and
on Thursday December 11, 2014, the
Appeal Court granted that the case be
revisited and so the ruling of the High
Court was overturned.
Mr Kalu said the whole issue was not only
about going to court and winning a case
but about working towards breaking the
cycle of sickle cell anaemia in Nigeria
because in the cause of their going in and
out of the hospital to save his son, he
interacted with other people whose
children were also diagnosed with sickle
cell disease. He also discovered that most
of the cases were as a result of wrong
genotype results and inefficiency on the
side of the laboratory equipment in some
hospitals and human error too.
Mr Kalu has since reported the issue to the
Association of Medical Laboratory
Scientists of Nigeria as well as so many
sickle cell foundations. He said he was
going to report the case to the World
Health Organisation because something
must be done to break the cycle of sickle
cell anaemia in Nigeria and viable
equipment for carrying out tests on people
must be provided.
He said change would only start by getting
hospital laboratories to function better and
use the right equipment and chemicals in
carrying out their tests.
Mr Kanu lamented that taking care of a
sickle cell patient was not an easy task for
he and his wife. He said since his son,
Okwuchukwu Joseph Kanu was born, they
were always in hospital. In the last
incident, he said Joseph had to be given
about three pints of blood to resuscitate
him adding that they have spent a lot
money on medications and hospital bills.
Joseph’s sickly nature has not only
tampered on his health but also his
education as he is said to be out of school
because after taking too many injections, it
affected his hip bone and he now limps.
The family said they were making efforts to
see him get well and return to school.
Kanu confirmed that Joseph at seven has
only concluded his nursery school and
waiting to start primary one.
He said he and his wife are quite unhappy
about the situation because what they were
trying to avoid has caught up with them
and that if they were properly informed,
they would have separated amicably to
avoid the pain of having a child with sickle
cell anaemia. He said as a result of the
challenges, they had to stop put
procreation on hold after the birth of their
second son, Godswill, who miraculously
was born with AA genotype.
According to them, they had to stop
having more children because the thought
of giving birth to another child who may
suffer the same ailment was very
unbearable.
Mr Kanu has not stopped looking for a
solution for his son’s wellbeing as he said
they now are at the point of going for a
bone marrow transplant for their son.
Luckily, it was discovered that his younger
brother could be a possible donor, so it
won’t cost much to get a bone marrow but
would cost much to get their son to the
hospital in Italy where the transplant would
be done.
He said they are currently faced with a
whole lot of financial problems but hoping
that soon they would be able to raise
money for the costly operation. The
transplant, they were told, costs about
$45,000 (about N8.5m) which excludes
transportation and accommodation.
When LEADERSHIP Sunday tried to reach
the first hospital that handled the test for
comments, it was told that the laboratory
staff were not available due to the ongoing
strike of health workers.

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

My husband goes to the market himself

My husband goes to the market
himself.
Please help me out
of this problem I am experiencing with my
husband of eight months . When we were
dating it wasn ’ t so much of a problem to
me. But , since we got married, it has
become a major issue in our marriage
which could lead to the collapse of our
union if care is not taken .
I am forced to ask for your help because
attempts to resolve the issue on my own is
putting my marriage under severe pressure,
as my husband has stubbornly refused to
see things from my perspective . He thinks I
am making a mountain out of an ant hill .
Agatha , even when I am in the car with him,
he insists on buying things himself in the
market . He goes to the market himself to
get whatever we need at home. Even when I
tell him , what I need as a woman in my
kitchen , he buys what he wants.
I have tried to explain to him that he should
allow me run that department of our
marriage , that it is my duty to go to the
market and manage my kitchen , he refuses .
Even when I use my money to buy food
items when we run out of certain items, he
complains that they are expensive even
when the ones he buys are more
expensive .
Even if I don ’ t like the quality of the things
he buys , I have to use them because I
don’ t have a choice to buy what I want . It is
all so frustrating as he appears so set in
this habit of his . I tried getting his best
friend to talk to him , rather than achieve the
result I want, he took it as an offence. So , I
have learnt to allow him be but , it isn ’ t
good for our marriage at all .
I truly am tired of it all , the constant
arguments about this. I don ’ t know if he is
stingy or just being himself but I was
brought up with the knowledge that men
provide their wives with house -keeping
money and that it was the responsibility of
the woman to go to the market and buy
stuff for her kitchen .
Much as I love my husband, this is a
situation that I know deep within me I
cannot cope with . I grew up with a father
who didn’ t bother himself with my mother ’ s
kitchen .
I ’ m so confused . Please help me before I
do something I will forever regret.
Alexandra.
Dear Alexandra ,
First and foremost , don’ t try to pattern your
marriage after that of your parents , else you
will end up getting hurt, disillusioned and
extremely bitter at the choices you made in
marrying your husband.
Even though they are your parents , you are
an individual in your right, hence subject to
your own choices . In addition, your
husband is different from your father . Like
you, he has his reasons for doing things
his own way . His upbringing and yours are
clearly different. So trying to cast him into
the same mold as your father would further
create disaffection between the two of you.
Besides , every marriage comes with its sets
of problems . Ask your parents , they would
tell you that they are still struggling with
some issues too despite the number of
years they have lived together. Challenges
will always come and go in marriages but it
depends on the willingness and ability of
the couple to manage such situations
effectively.
Also the attitude we develop towards a
problem, more often than not , influences
how we handle the issue, which is another
reason you have to rid yourself of all the
negative thoughts you are having about
your marriage and husband .
Like our faces , our challenges are different
and its magnitude is how we define it . This
is why one partner will overlook the
shortcomings of the other , by focusing on
the good aspects of the marriage , and
another cave in at the sight of a trouble .
As long as you are determined to make this
marriage work at all cost , there is nothing
much to what is happening in your home.
The simple solution is to develop the right
attitude to your husband’ s habit . If it makes
him happy going to the market , why not
relax and save yourself the stress of
managing meager housekeeping money?
Obviously he enjoys what most men won ’ t
do, even if offered all the money in the
world. So , what is your problem? As long
as there is food on your table , let him do all
the buying .
As for those things , you want in your
kitchen that he isn ’ t buying ; those you can
go and get on your own , not only to satisfy
your own craving for those things but to
give you the feel of the market scene you
apparently wish for desperately .
As long as you understand each other ,
there is no reason for you to feel bad. You
are lucky ; he is just buying and not
measuring the food items out for you. If
some women can cope with men who daily
instruct them on the measure of food to
cook for the family , without collapsing their
marriages , then you have no reason not to
succeed in yours.
To achieve a good marriage requires a lot
of tolerance, sacrifice, patience, wisdom and
compromises . The question is : How does
his going to market affect the quality of
your marriage or your relationship with him
for that matter? Really , there is no law
preventing a man from shopping for his
family . It actually saves the woman a lot of
complaints about house -keeping allowances
not being enough , especially when the man
expects the woman to become a magician
by cooking him meals his money cannot
buy.
Honestly , if you shift grounds and look at
the positive side of all these , you won ’ t
have any need to feel so bad anymore .
Also, your presentation of the issue maybe
one reason your husband appears adamant
on. If you are demanding it as your right
and using the example of your parents as
yardstick , you may not go far . In fact , that
may further make him very recalcitrant on
the matter. So pretend it doesn ’ t bother
you at all by changing your approach .
When next he does the shopping ,
compliment him for his efforts by telling
him you are lucky to have him for a
husband. Even when you feel he has been
cheated in the market , keep your thoughts
to yourself and instead focus on the act and
not the thoughts you think he has of going
to the market himself .
If this is the price you have to pay for peace
in your home, please do it. The naked truth
is , another woman would jump at the
opportunity of having her husband go to the
market himself to save herself the headache
of haggling endlessly in the market . You
and I know that the money for
housekeeping is never enough. Most
women supplement what they get from their
husbands . You don’ t have that worry as it
is . Unlike most of us who have to find ways
to augment , all you have to worry about is
simply to cook the meals and report to him
when the stock is depleting.
Also, a time would come in his life when he
would get tired and too embarrassed to be
doing the shopping . Until that time , relax
and enjoy this privilege while it lasts .
Since you didn’ t complain that he is
denying you of anything , it means he isn ’ t
stingy ; just a man who happens to enjoying
shopping just like some men enjoy cooking .
Focus more on his good points and stop
worry on the one thing you don ’ t like about
him. Frankly , there is nothing to what you
are complaining of. It will become
something of an issue if you refuse to let it
be . Perish this from your thoughts , to
enable you concentrate on knowing the
angel inside your husband, so as to reap
the goodness God planted in your marriage .

Mass murderer set to marry 26-year-old lady

CORCORAN, Calif. (AP) — Mass murderer Charles
Manson plans to marry a 26-year-old woman who
left her Midwestern home and spent the past nine
years trying to help exonerate him.
Afton Elaine Burton, the raven-haired bride-to-be,
said she loves the man convicted in the notorious
murders of seven people, including pregnant
actress Sharon Tate.
No date has been set, but a wedding coordinator
has been assigned by the prison to handle the
nuptials, and the couple has until early February to
get married before they would have to reapply.
The Kings County marriage license, viewed
Monday by The Associated Press, was issued Nov.
7 for the 80-year-old Manson and Burton, who
lives in Corcoran — the site of the prison — and
maintains several websites advocating his
innocence.
Burton, who goes by the name "Star," told the AP
that she and Manson will be married next month.
"Y'all can know that it's true," she said. "It's going
to happen."
"I love him," she added. "I'm with him. There's all
kinds of things."
However, as a life prisoner with no parole date,
Manson is not entitled to family visits, a
euphemism for conjugal visits.
So why would Burton marry him under those
conditions?
She said she is interested in working on his case,
and marrying him would allow her to get
information not available to nonrelatives.
"There's certain things next of kin can do," she
said without elaborating.
Tate's sister, Debra, who acts as a spokeswoman
for the families of Manson's victims, said the
impending marriage is "ludicrous."
"I think it's insane," she said. "What would any
young woman in her right mind want with an 80-
year-old man?"
As for Manson's motives, she said, "The devil is
alive and well."
Burton gave an interview a year ago to Rolling
Stone magazine in which she said she and
Manson planned to marry. But Manson, who
became notorious in 1969 as the leader of a
roving "family" of young killers, was less certain
about tying the knot.
"That's a bunch of garbage," Manson said in the
December 2013 interview. "That's trash. We're
playing that for public consumption."
Asked Monday about those comments, Burton
said, "None of that's true," adding that they're
waiting for the prison to complete their paperwork.
California Department of Corrections spokeswoman
Terry Thornton confirmed to the AP that the
license had been transmitted to the prison.
Thornton said each California prison designates an
employee to be a marriage coordinator who
processes paperwork for an inmate's request to be
wed. In most cases, she said, the Department of
Corrections approves of such weddings as "a tool
of family reunification and social development." But
Manson is a unique case.
Burton said the wedding might have happened
earlier if Manson did not have "some situations" at
the prison.
Thornton explained that in February, Manson had
three violations for possession of a weapon,
threatening staff and refusal to provide a urine
sample. Further details on the violations were not
immediately available.
Burton said the prison holds marriages on the first
Saturday of each month and she expects to be
married in an inmate visiting room at the prison.
Thornton confirmed that Manson can have a
wedding at the prison and invite an officiant from
outside the prison to perform the ceremony.
Manson and his prospective spouse also would be
allowed to invite 10 guests who are not inmates.
He and two followers, Leslie Van Houten and
Patricia Krenwinkel, remain imprisoned. Another
follower, Susan Atkins, died of cancer behind bars.
Other members of the Manson "family" still behind
bars are Charles "Tex" Watson, Bruce Davis and
Robert Beausoleil.
Manson, Watson and the women were convicted in
the gruesome killings of Tate, the wife of director
Roman Polanski, and four others at her estate on
Aug. 9, 1969, and grocers Leno and Rosemary
LaBianca who were killed the following night.
Manson is not eligible for parole until 2027. He
has been a habitual criminal and spent most of his
life in prison.

wife finds missing husband married to another woman in the same city

Wife finds missing
husband married
to another woman
November 11, 2014 | 6:55pm
A married man who disappeared
almost a decade ago has been
discovered by his wife online — living
in the same state and married to
another woman.
Karen Marx, 48, had been searching
for her spouse, Adam, ever since he
vanished without an explanation in
2005.
But when she finally tracked him
down on Facebook, she was shocked
to find he was living about 155
miles away in her home state of
Wisconsin, and happily married to
someone else.
“I just thought, ‘How could he get
married again?’” Karen told the Post
Crescent. “Am I dead? What did he do
with my identity?”
Karen, who has three kids from a
previous relationship, said Adam was
married with two children of his own
when she met him at a local carnival
in the 1990s, where he worked as a
ride operator.
But Adam agreed to divorce his first
wife for Karen, whom he married a
year later.
Adam quit his carnival job and moved
in with his new wife, who supported
the family on her machine operator
wages. But after about a year, he
vacated the family home, leaving only
a note.
“The first time he left me, it was like
somebody reached into my chest and
ripped my heart out of me,” Karen
said. “He basically told me it was all
my fault and he couldn’t handle my
kids.”
However, he returned several months
later — right when she was due to
collect her Christmas bonus.
Karen took him back, and used her
savings to buy the family a new home
in Clinton, Montana. He found work
at a timber framing company while
she tried to start a cleaning business.
However, about a year into their new
life, Adam started accumulating debt
and Karen confronted him about
suspected infidelity.
He left in his truck and Karen locked
the door behind him.
“He tried kicking my door in. I was
pretty afraid of him back then,” she
said. “But over the years, I just look at
it and think he’s a coward. He left me
with just a note in Wisconsin and then
he left me in Montana.”
[POLICE] SAID
HE TOLD
PEOPLE IT WAS
HIS FIRST
MARRIAGE, AND
THE [CLERK]
NEVER
CHECKED VITAL
STATISTICS.
 - Karen Marx
A short time later, Adam lost his job
at the timber company and stopped
answering his phone.
Karen, still saddled with Adam’s bills
and debts, bumped into her husband
once at a nearby Kmart and asked
him for a divorce. He said he’d call.
“Needless to say, I never heard from
him,” she said.
In 2012, Karen moved home to New
London, Wisconsin, to look after her
sick dad, and found Adam’s mom on
Facebook. She told Karen of Adam’s
new life — and his new wife, Marcie.
Stunned, Karen contacted the police,
who arrested Adam and charged him
with bigamy, fraud and making a false
statement on his marriage license.
“They said he told people it was his
first marriage, and the [clerk] never
checked vital statistics,” Karen said. “I
think people need to start doing their
job and doing it thoroughly, especially
when it comes to something like this.”
Adam allegedly told investigators he
thought Karen took care of the
divorce in Montana, and that he lied
about his latest marriage being his
first to expedite the procedure.
Karen vowed to finally file for
divorce, and said she wouldn’t date
anyone until it’s finalized.
“I consider myself married,” she said.
“I thought when you married
someone, you married him for life,
through sickness and health.
“Even though he’s married to some
other woman, I’m still a married
woman, and married women don’t do
that.”
If convicted of fraud, the most severe
charge, Adam faces up to six years in
prison.
Bigamy also carries a maximum
penalty of 3½ years’ jail in Wisconsin.
This article originally appeared on
News.com.au .

Wife finds missing husband married to another woman in the same city .

Wife finds missing
husband married
to another woman
November 12
A married man who disappeared
almost a decade ago has been
discovered by his wife online — living
in the same state and married to
another woman.
Karen Marx, 48, had been searching
for her spouse, Adam, ever since he
vanished without an explanation in
2005.
But when she finally tracked him
down on Facebook, she was shocked
to find he was living about 155
miles away in her home state of
Wisconsin, and happily married to
someone else.
“I just thought, ‘How could he get
married again?’” Karen told the Post
Crescent. “Am I dead? What did he do
with my identity?”
Karen, who has three kids from a
previous relationship, said Adam was
married with two children of his own
when she met him at a local carnival
in the 1990s, where he worked as a
ride operator.
But Adam agreed to divorce his first
wife for Karen, whom he married a
year later.
Adam quit his carnival job and moved
in with his new wife, who supported
the family on her machine operator
wages. But after about a year, he
vacated the family home, leaving only
a note.
“The first time he left me, it was like
somebody reached into my chest and
ripped my heart out of me,” Karen
said. “He basically told me it was all
my fault and he couldn’t handle my
kids.”
However, he returned several months
later — right when she was due to
collect her Christmas bonus.
Karen took him back, and used her
savings to buy the family a new home
in Clinton, Montana. He found work
at a timber framing company while
she tried to start a cleaning business.
However, about a year into their new
life, Adam started accumulating debt
and Karen confronted him about
suspected infidelity.
He left in his truck and Karen locked
the door behind him.
“He tried kicking my door in. I was
pretty afraid of him back then,” she
said. “But over the years, I just look at
it and think he’s a coward. He left me
with just a note in Wisconsin and then
he left me in Montana.”
[POLICE] SAID
HE TOLD
PEOPLE IT WAS
HIS FIRST
MARRIAGE, AND
THE [CLERK]
NEVER
CHECKED VITAL
STATISTICS.
 - Karen Marx
A short time later, Adam lost his job
at the timber company and stopped
answering his phone.
Karen, still saddled with Adam’s bills
and debts, bumped into her husband
once at a nearby Kmart and asked
him for a divorce. He said he’d call.
“Needless to say, I never heard from
him,” she said.
In 2012, Karen moved home to New
London, Wisconsin, to look after her
sick dad, and found Adam’s mom on
Facebook. She told Karen of Adam’s
new life — and his new wife, Marcie.
Stunned, Karen contacted the police,
who arrested Adam and charged him
with bigamy, fraud and making a false
statement on his marriage license.
“They said he told people it was his
first marriage, and the [clerk] never
checked vital statistics,” Karen said. “I
think people need to start doing their
job and doing it thoroughly, especially
when it comes to something like this.”
Adam allegedly told investigators he
thought Karen took care of the
divorce in Montana, and that he lied
about his latest marriage being his
first to expedite the procedure.
Karen vowed to finally file for
divorce, and said she wouldn’t date
anyone until it’s finalized.
“I consider myself married,” she said.
“I thought when you married
someone, you married him for life,
through sickness and health.
“Even though he’s married to some
other woman, I’m still a married
woman, and married women don’t do
that.”
If convicted of fraud, the most severe
charge, Adam faces up to six years in
prison.
Bigamy also carries a maximum
penalty of 3½ years’ jail in Wisconsin.
This article originally appeared on
News.com.au .

Tumeric: A compond found in tumeric encourages brain repair

A compound found in turmeric
encourages brain repair
Scientists have discovered that a common curry
spice encourages the growth of neural stem cells
in rats, and could help the brain heal itself.
Image: John A. Anderson/Shutterstock
New research suggests that aromatic-tumerone, a
compound found in the spice turmeric, could be
used to create future drugs to treat patients with
neural impairment, such as sufferers of strokes
and Alzheimer’s disease.
Scientists from the Institute of Neuroscience and
Medicine at the Research Centre Juelich in
Germany studied the impact that aromatic-
tumerone has on neural cells by injecting the
compound into the brains of rats. Scans revealed
that, after being injected with the compound, the
regions of the brain involved in nerve cell growth
were more active.
The researchers also tested the impact of the
compound directly on neural stem cells, which are
cells that have the ability to transform into any
type of brain cell and, in theory, should be able to
repair damage or disease. But in humans and
other mammals this process doesn’t seem to
work so well.
"In humans and higher developed animals their
abilities do not seem to be sufficient to repair the
brain but in fish and smaller animals they seem to
work well,” Maria Adele Rueger, a neuroscientist
who was part of the research team, told Smitha
Mundasad from BBC News.
After treating rodent neural stem cells in different
concentrations of aromatic-tumerone, the
scientists found that the compound encouraged
the growth of the neural stem cells - and the
higher the concentration, the greater the growth.
The turmeric compound also sped up the
differentiation of the stem cells. The results are
published in the journal Stem Cell Research and
Therapy.
"It is interesting that it might be possible to boost
the effectiveness of the stem cells with aromatic-
turmerone. And it is possible this in turn can help
boost repair in the brain,” Rueger told the BBC.
The team is now looking into human trials to find
out whether the turmeric compound has the same
effect on our brain cells.

Man propose to girlfriend with 99 iPhones 6: She says no

Man Buys 99 iPhones to
Propose to His Girlfriend;
She Says No
He got 99 iPhones but gettin’ hitched ain’t
done.
With “Singles’ Day” looming in China (Nov.
11), one man thought the time was right to try
to tie the knot with his girlfriend, preventing
them both from having to participate in any
future 11/11 festivities.
As a keystone of the young programmer’s
marriage proposal were 99 iPhones 6’s placed
on the ground and arranged in the form of a
heart. The setup, as reported by The Nanfang ,
cost the love-bitten chap two years’ salary
(about $82,000).
But that evidently wasn’t enough. She said
no. Siri, how do you mend a broken heart?

Whether our once-hopeful groom likes it or
not, pictures of the ultimately sad event  are up on the Chinese microblogging
site Weibo .
But of course, with a bushel of iPhones that
size, we’re not convinced he has any real
reason to feel too bummed. According to a
recent survey, one in five men would actually
rather have an iPhone 6 than a girlfriend . And
that number is even up from last year’s
survey about the iPhone 5s, where one in
eight said they would forgo the soft touch of a
woman for a new Touch ID-equipped Apple
phone.
So, whether our crestfallen man ends up
hawking these phones one by one to make
back big bucks , or just decides that 99 Siris
are better than one real wife, we get the sense
that he’ll be OK in the end. Remember, it’s
better to have loved and lost 99 iPhones than
never to have loved at all.

Man invites daughter's rapist to dinner.. then,............

Man invites
daughter’s ‘rapist’ to
dinner then tortures
him to death
November 3, 2014 | 9:32am
A furious father is facing murder charges
after he treated his teenage daughter’s
alleged rapist to dinner before torturing
him to death.
The man’s 14-year-old daughter was
allegedly raped two months earlier by the
45-year-old married man.
According to the Indian Express, the
father invited the man to his home in
northeast Delhi’s Khajuri Khas for his last
meal before assaulting him.
He reportedly strapped the alleged rapist
to a chair, burned his genitals with heated
tongs and strangled him.
I BURNED HIS GENITALS
ONCE, HE SCREAMED. I
DID IT AGAIN, HE
SHUDDERED.
 - Father of alleged rape victim
Police say the father turned himself in
following the incident, giving a detailed
statement of the elaborate torture
methods he had carried out.
“I burned his genitals once, he screamed.
I did it again, he shuddered. When I did it
the third time … he did not move. He was
dead … I did not want to kill him,” the
father reportedly told the police.
“The father called the medicine supplier
over to his house, saying he wanted to
discuss some issue. He served him
dinner,” an officer told the Indian
Express.
“After the meal, the father overpowered
the man and tied him to a chair. He got
heated tongs and burned the supplier’s
genitals before strangling him to death.
He came to the police station and
surrendered himself.”
Police allege the man had been planning
the murder since his daughter told him
about the incident the day it happened,
but did not report it to police, fearing “a
bad name for his daughter.”
This article originally appeared on
News.com.au .

Pity

Nigerian Billionaire's Ex Wife To
Pay His Lawyer's £100k Fees.
Why do things like this happen?
Scorned: Mercy Ogbedo, 45, outside London's High
Court, who has been told to pay her billionaire ex-
husband's £100,000 legal costs even though he
was already married when they wed.
Dailymail reports that a woman who claims she
was duped into a wedding with a billionaire who
was already married has been ordered to pay him
£100,000, a court heard
Mercy Ogbedo believed she married shipping
magnate Moses Taiga in an elaborate ceremony in
Nigeria where her feet were washed by village
elders and a dowry was paid for her as a ‘bride
price’.
The couple had twins together, but Mrs Ogbedo
then spent a decade pursuing the tycoon for
financial support through the British courts – only
to be told she would not get a penny because their
wedding ceremony was invalid.
Instead, the 45-year-old of Finchley, North London,
was ordered to pay 80 per cent of Mr Taiga’s legal
costs for a series of complex court hearings,
leaving her with an estimated £100,000 bill for
lawyers’ fees.
Mrs Ogbedo went to the Court of Appeal yesterday
in a bid to get the order overturned. The court
heard she had ‘limited means’ while her ‘husband’
owned a string of London properties.
The pair ‘married’ in 2002 and had twins, but Mrs
Ogbedo discovered soon afterwards that Mr Taiga
had already married a woman in Benin, West
Africa.
The court heard that having more than one wife is
allowed under Nigerian law, but Mrs Ogbedo
applied to the British courts in 2003 to have her
marriage dissolved because of her husband’s
behaviour, and to force Mr Taiga to pay
maintenance for their children.
The High Court ordered she should be given
£300,000 a year – but Mr Taiga went to the
Nigerian courts and successfully argued that their
wedding was invalid, because of his church
marriage in Benin.
The court ruled that Mrs Ogbedo’s was a ‘non-
marriage’, which meant precisely nothing in the
eyes of the law.
The High Court then ruled it could not hand over
any of Mr Taiga’s fortune because he was never
legally married to Mrs Ogbedo, and that she should
pay most of his legal costs. Her lawyers branded
that decision ‘incomprehensible’ and said she
should be entitled to a payout.
Barrister Timothy Scott QC, for Mrs Ogbedo, said:
‘The wife says she was duped. She should be
permitted to apply for financial relief in England by
virtue of that marriage ceremony.’
Since his split from Mrs Ogbedo, Mr Taiga has
ended his 1974 Benin marriage and wed another
woman, Yinka, with whom he has quadruplets.
Ruling on Mrs Ogbedo’s case, Appeal Court judge
Lord Justice McFarlane said he had ‘real
sympathy’ for her position, adding: ‘All the time
the wife considered that she was married to her
husband he was in fact married to another lady.’
However, he said he could not allow her to appeal
over a divorce payout because ‘there was no
marriage on which English law could bite’.
He said he would allow her to appeal against the
order that she should pay Mr Taiga’s costs.
Lord Justice McFarlane said it was arguable that
the sum was unfair, adding: ‘She has the sole care
of the parties’ children and is a lady of limited
means.’
*Please I need a lawyer in the house to educate
me more on this Law regarding Nigerian men being
eligible to more than one wife.I thought it was a
religion thing.Please what section of the Nigerian
Law

Nurse killed 38 patients

Italian nurse Daniela Poggiali accused of
killing 'up to 38 patients because she
found them annoying'
An Italian nurse is being held on an
alleged murder charge after one
suspicious hospital death and police are
investigating more
Daniela Poggiali
Police in Italy are investigating whether a
nurse could have killed up to 38 people
who have died in hospital in suspicious
circumstances.
The nurse, Daniela Poggiali, is accused of
injecting a 78-year-old patient, Rosa
Calderoni, with a fatal dose of potassium
when she was admitted to hospital in
Lugo in the province of Ravenna with a
condition related to diabetes, according to
the Italian newspaper Libero Quotidiano .
The police inquiry is being expanded to
investigate 38 deaths, including 10 which
police have described as “very suspicious”
according to Italian media reports. Ms
Poggiali is also suspected of giving her
patients high doses of potassium because
she found them or their families
annoying, according to Libero Quotidiano .
Police said that they were investigating
whether the patients were allegedly killed
because they were too "difficult" to treat
or because the families were overly
pushy.
Alessandro Mancini, the chief prosecutor
of Ravenna, described the investigation as
"very complex".
The Corriere di Bologna newspaper also
reported that police have a phone
belonging to Poggiali, 42, contained a
photo she took of her giving a thumbs-up
next to a patient that had died. As a
result, Poggiali could face charges for
disrespecting the dead.
Potassium chloride can trigger cardiac
arrest and is used in the US for
administering the death penalty.
Police reportedly said the case was
difficult because potassium fades from
the blood very quickly.

Army Col, 10 officers set Nigerian tankers ablaze, pave way for Boko haram.

SABOTAGE: Army Col, 10 officers set
Nigerian tankers ablaze, pave way for
Boko Haram
There were shocking revelations at the weekend
that an Army Colonel, some junior officers and
soldiers who were taking part in the military
offensive to reclaim communities taken over by the
Boko Haram terrorists in Adamawa State, have
been arrested for sabotage.
Top military sources said that the colonel (a
Muslim) who was Commanding a team of three
Armoured Personnel Carriers, APC’s, with the
capability to fire up to a range of 1.5kilometres or
even more, had instead of pursuing the terrorists,
deliberately set the APCs on fire between Gulak and
Madagali, before running away with his team of
soldiers into the bush.
Saturday Vanguard gathered that the Army
authorities were outraged over the development
and ordered the arrest of both the commander, the
junior officers as well as the soldiers under his
command.
Narrating how the ‘’embarrassing incident
occurred,’’ a source who was privy to the
development noted that until the latest
development, the Special Forces of the Nigerian
Army who commenced the putsch to rout Boko
Haram terrorists from Bazza, Michika, Gulak and
Madagali from Vimtim, had successfully dealt with,
and inflicted heavy casualties on the terrorists up
till Gulak.
It was said that between Gulak and Madagali, the
Colonel who had all along been prided with air
surveillance reports, was again informed that Boko
Haram terrorists were approaching his team in six
Toyota Hilux Pick Up vans from the Madagali axis.
“However, rather than blasting and taking out the
terrorists in their pick-up vans; he ordered his
soldiers to jump out of the APC’s and set the
armoured tanks on fire, without realising that he
was being monitored. This was shocking because
the terrorists were armed with weaponry which
were grossly inferior to the firepower of the
Nigerian Army Amoured tanks. After accomplishing
the sabotage act, the Colonel and the junior
officers and soldiers ran away into the bush,
claiming that they were overpowered by a better
armed group of Boko Haram terrorists,’’ Saturday
Vanguard was told.
Military sources said that the action of the Colonel
and soldiers under his command had given vent to
the disclosure by the top hierarchy of the military
that there were so many fifth columnists in the
military working against the country’s
determination to flush out Boko Haram terrorists in
the land.
Consequently, Saturday Vanguard was told that a
Board of Inquiry, BoI, had been set up by the Army
authorities to investigate the Colonel and his
soldiers after which a Military Court Martial would
be set up to try them for conspiracy, treason and
willful sabotage among others.
Also speaking on the development, a senior officer
confided in Saturday Vanguard thus, “You can now
see why the Military Court Martial which is
currently sitting is inevitable. The uninformed
would feel that soldiers who are fighting the
nation’s battle are being unjustly punished. But the
truth is that many of them are sabotaging Nigeria
and making the insurgents look formidable for
reasons that cannot be explained. Some of them
appear sympathetic to the insurgents.
“How can it be explained that several APCs that
cost up to $1million each in some cases or more
will be willfully destroyed by Commissioned
Officers, COs, who swore to defend the territorial
integrity of their nation, just to help terrorists? That
is treason of the highest order.”
The source added that the new vigour and
determination with which Nigerian troops had been
prosecuting the war, resulting in the killing of
several commanders of the sect as well as
hundreds of the insurgents, was the fallout of the
new position of the military high command to deal
with those pursuing a different agenda from that of
the Federal Government.
The Chief of Defence Staff, CDS, Air Chief Marshal
Alex Badeh said last week that the death penalty
imposed on the 12 soldiers who were tried for
treason was lawful and in accordance with military
dictates. He spoke at a three-day conference
organised by the National Security Adviser in
collaboration with Trim Communication Nigeria Ltd
on Media/Security relationship in crisis
management.
According to him, “The day you join the military
you have signed off, whether life or death, and it is
obey before complaint. How can a soldier just
jump out of the APC because you want to donate
APC to Boko Haram; and somebody is there
talking about constructive mutiny.
“The laws are there, if you run away from the
enemy, you will die and that is what the military
law says. Apart from the old Nigerian law, we abide
by the military law. Nobody forces or conscripts
anybody into the military. It is a voluntary service,
and so if we have this type of challenge, you
should be able to confront it and not to run away.”...CULLED

Murder- Suicide doctor.. nurse die hours after their wedding

Doctor kills wife, himself
on their wedding night
It was supposed to be the couple’s happiest
day: Kelly Ecker, a nurse, and Dr. George
Scott Samson married Saturday afternoon in
Terre Haute, Ind.
By their wedding night, both were dead.
Samson, an anesthesiologist at Union Hospital
in Terre Haute, shot his bride and then himself
in their home just hours after they exchanged
vows, authorities said.
Some wedding guests noticed tension between
the couple almost immediately after each said
“I do,” said Vigo County Sheriff Chief Deputy
Clark Cottom.
“Some guests are telling us the bride and
groom didn’t speak to each other at the
reception,” he said.
After the reception, the couple hosted
members of the bridal party at their home on
outside Terre Haute, Cottom said.
Not long after the last guest left, the county
dispatch center received a 911 call, according
to a transcript and tape provided by
authorities.
The 911 calls
The first call was made at 1:25 a.m.
The caller, said to be Kelly, is only able to
give an address, then the call cuts off.
In a second call made a minute later, the
caller says, “he is beating the s*** out of me”
and then says “he has guns” and identifies
Scott Samson by name.
By the third call, at 1:27 a.m., Cottom said it’s
clear the situation has escalated because the
caller’s voice is in more distress. She says
“oh my God!” and then gunshots are heard.
When deputies arrived on the scene, they were
met at the door by an elderly male relative of
Samson’s, authorities said.
“He directed the deputies to the bedroom
where they found Kelly’s body,” said Cottom.
She had been shot multiple times, he said.
Robot finds Samson
In addition to the male, two other individuals
were found in home: Ecker’s 10-year old-son
was in the bedroom where his mother’s body
was found, and he was unharmed, Cottom
said.
An elderly female relative was in the home at
the time of the shootings, and she also was
unharmed, authorities said.
Samson was still inside when deputies
arrived, so they made it a priority to get those
three individuals out of the home and to safety
immediately, Cottom said.
The elderly male witness told police that
Samson had run from the bedroom to another
part of the house to get more ammunition, and
then ran to the basement, authorities said.
Deputies surrounded the home immediately.
“The house is near a wooded area and a
cornfield and we didn’t want an armed man
running deep into the woods,” Cottom said.
A special response team used a robotic device
equipped with a camera to gain entry into the
home, he said.
When the robot located Samson in the
basement, it was apparent what had
happened.
“Samson was unresponsive. We saw a bullet
wound,” Cottom said.
Samson’s body was found near his gun safe
where he had earlier removed other weapons,
said Cottom. Samson was a gun enthusiast
who had a federal firearms license, Cottom
said.
This week, deputies were still taking inventory
of the weapons inside the home. Cottom said
several dozen of them had been removed. Culled from CNN